Serious Mistake II

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Registered: 03-04-2007
Serious Mistake II
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Mon, 05-28-2007 - 4:02pm

Hi everyone,

I screwed up and started talking to my Ex. She sent me several emails about getting back together etc..starting a family , the whole 9 yards. She won't communicate with me; she gives me vague answers to simple questions about the breakup. I'm pretty sure she just baited me so I would talk to her...naive me. I'm staring to get paranoid about what her real intent is. I don't trust her and that makes things even worse. I'm staring to create scenarios that probably aren't real but I feel they could be and it's really stressing me out. I can see my job being affected but I'm trying my best to do what I have to do. Her prescence just makes me wonder what cogs are turning in that head of hers..what does she want?...Is she checking up on me? Is she seeing other people and trying to make sure I'm where I'm supposed to be (I live below her)? She's cunning and I don't think she really cares about anyone other than herself. I accidently left the breakup board on my desktop and I think she has the address..that's why I got rid of the first message. I was on N/C for 3 months and everything was under control...it's been a week since I stopped N/C and now everything's "beyond" out of control. I really don't want her to read this entry...but what choice to I have? Has anyone been through a major stressor like this? Thank you.

Eric

P.S: I'm going to need to delete this message tonight so that she doesn't access it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 4:13pm

Okay Eric!

You fell into the trap once, but this doesn't mean you have to go through the process indefinitely!

Suggestion from Pianoguy:

If you no longer wish to communicate with the lady...THEN DON'T! Don't make a production out of it...just end things NOW!

But once you do...NO CONTACT is the rule. I'm talking phone, email, snail mail, text messages, instant messenger...the whole bit! In other words...GO COLD TURKEY and MOVE ON!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 5:44pm

cfrenzy,


Get back on the No Contact thing.