Seven years later...Happy, but hung up?
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| Thu, 05-24-2007 - 3:01am |
Seven years ago, I got dumped, hard-core. (Need I mention it was in the recess of my first jury trial as a new lawyer) So I thought he was the love of my life...blah, blah, blah...
I have taken great strides in moving on, however now I find myself seven years older, happy and well-adjusted, but completely uninterested in dating/romance.
I try to think that I am not still hung-up on him. But damn, am I?
I don't think about him anymore, I don't pine for him anymore, and I sure as hell don't wish I had him back.
Why is it taking me so long to get "re-interested" in dating?
Has anyone else suffered this phenomenon....of taking so long to recover - subconsciously?
Any tips for moving the process along?
I'm ready to get back out there, but I think some sort of deeply-rooted fear is holding me back.
After seven years, I just have to pull myself together and get back out in the dating world.
Your suggestions/encouragements/tips are much appreciated!
:)

I sincerely don't think that you're still hung up on him as much as I think you've just lost your taste for dating. Kind of like when someone hasn't had sex for a long time, not just a couple of months but a long time, their libido naturally shuts down. Or not going to the gym for a long time, it takes longer to get motivated to start, you fatigue quickly at first, but after a while of regular workouts, your energy level goes up, you feel better, etc.
So just like anything else you're out of practice with, you need to get back in practice and work out your relationship "muscles." After a while, it'll come back to you :)
Best.