Sex with the Ex. Advice needed
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Sex with the Ex. Advice needed
| Sun, 07-30-2006 - 8:47am |
Hi to everyone. I have broken up with my partner of 11 years about 6 weeks ago. The reason he says he left was because he and my 15 year old son(he is his stepfather) can not get along at all and home life was pretty terrible with the two of them. We have broken up before and I just think its the fact that we can't live together in a relationship. I am very bitter about him walking out on me when I need him the most, and as you all know some days I think I'm going to be fine and some days I fall in a heap. Although I have had it with relationships, I just couldn't face the thought of finding someone else and being hurt again, I am extremely lonely with the kids for the only company. My ex has hinted that he would have no problem sleeping with me (you don't say!)as he still really cares about me and is not interested in any other relationship. Is it ever OK to sleep with the ex or is it really asking for trouble. I would really appreciate your words of wisdom to this dilemma.

First let me say how sorry I am your going through this.
Second, I think you already know the answer to your question. There is no way you can separate the feeling you have for your ex and just have sex without being left feeling used and even more heartbroken. I don't know your ex, but it seems to me he bailed when the relationship got tough; why would you know reward him but giving him the easy part of a relationship without any of the love and support that should go with it. This man already hurt you once; don't give him the chance to do it over and over again.
It's never easy to get over a relationship, especially a long term one. JUst take it one day at a time, and remember we're all here when you need us.
Kathy