Sex with my ex

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Registered: 06-12-2007
Sex with my ex
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:39pm
Okay so my boyfriend recently broke up with about a month ago. We were together 8 months. His reasons were because the relationship was getting too complicated and he decided it would best if we were just friends. I, of course, was devestated. He really is the only guy I have ever deeply loved. But, towards the end of the relationship it was getting very physically based and that really was all I could think about. I have had my share of good and bad days since the relationship ended. It was really hard for me to deal with losing him because we had so much fun and because it was so sudden. I really didn't have the closure I needed. But we recently have come into contact and he called me. We mutually decided that we wanted to hookup again. He told me that doing this will not make him want me back or make him fall in love with me again. I know this and know that he really is not the right guy for me but I still want to have sex with again. He also told me that he and another girl have been hanging out but it has not turned into anything other than a friendship. I asked him if it eventually will turn into more and he said yes probably. What should I do? I don't want to get back with him and know he has officially moved on and I believe I have too but I am still attracted to him....
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Registered: 06-22-2006
In reply to: snipsnip05
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 1:12am

Unless you want to lose all of whatever respect he still has for you or what you have for yourself, you need to have no contact with him until you're over him and keep those legs closed. I know that's blunt, but that's exactly what we're talking about here. You can either be someone he looks back on with fondness, respect and consideration, while you can look yourself in the mirror with dignity and pride, or you can be a booty call and not like what you're letting yourself become. Your choice.

You're strong enough to make the right decisions for yourself. Good luck.

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Registered: 09-24-2003
In reply to: snipsnip05
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:53am
A giant AMEN on everything Sandra said. Respect yourself and cut all contact with this guy. He is clearly a sleeze who wants to have his cake and eat it too!
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Registered: 11-09-2006
In reply to: snipsnip05
Tue, 06-19-2007 - 9:53pm
Don't do it. Been there done that. All it will cause you is heartbreak. I was with my ex for 6 years. When we broke up, the sex continued. The problem is he gets what he wants. Sex from you with no strings attached. My best advice is don't have sex with him. Make him want you for more than sex. I had people telling me that when I would ask and I ignored them and did it anyway. We have been broke up for 8 months now and it has only been about 2-3 weeks since we last slept with eachother. But I am done. I never should have let it go that far. It will only cause you more pain and hope that you will get back together. You will be fine!!!