sharing the details

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Registered: 09-09-2004
sharing the details
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Mon, 12-13-2004 - 9:36pm
So my ex and i broke up over a month ago. We were together for a very long time, so we pretty much share the same friends. He is a very open person, and i tend to be very private about details of my life. So, Ive been hearing through the grape vine about what he has told people about the break up. I have not discussed the specifics with anyone he is friends with, and i really want him to do the same. I dont feel its fair for our friends to hear one side of the story, and i dont want to share any of the details. Some of the things he has been sharing sounds like they arent so flattering to me.
So i called him as asked him not to discuss our issues with our friends. He seems to think that its ok, because its his life. I told him that i would really appreciate my privacy, and his respect of that.
I dont know if he is going to honor my request.
Any suggestions? I dont want to start saying things to other people, and its getting really hard to ignore the info that is floating around.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 9:41pm
You say the things he is saying are unflattering to you, but are they untrue? You know what, it really doesn't matter. The people who are really your friends will know you enough to know that something is or isn't true. It'd be nice if he had enough respect for you and what you two had to keep his mouth shut, especially after you asked him to, but that may not be the case. Tell people what you want, correct any lies you hear if you want. In the end though, he's just going to look like a sore loser and an immature child.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 10:34pm
I know it really stinks when you're trying to not talk about things and your ex is telling everyone. I think you've done all you can though....you told him you don't want him telling anymore details and now it's up to him. If you do hear things floating around that aren't true....I'd correct them but nobody can make you tell any details you don't want to. In time he'll tire of the talk and this will pass and nobody will even care what happened anymore. Good luck and stay strong!











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