SHATTERED

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Registered: 11-14-2004
SHATTERED
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Mon, 06-12-2006 - 4:38pm
My boyfriend and I lived toghther for four years. I have two children from a previous marriage. My boyfriend was wonderful to me and the kids. My ex husband would not leave us alone and was constantly causing trouble. He had me so nervous that it finally last friday caused my boyfriend to leave. He said that he did not want to do this that he loved me but that enough was enough. That it was not fair to anybody. He said that he won't ever come back to me, as much as he would like to because our situation will never change,that my ex is crazy is an understatement. I don't blame my BF but I have never hurt so bad in my life. Not even when I divorced. I love this man so much that it hurts, I just don't know what to do. I cry every 5 min, I can't sleep, and I honestly think I am going crazy. What will I do with out him, we had a beautiful life together when there was no interference from the ex. We were perfect. I am so hurt and I miss him so much. I just need a little you can do this push. Thanks.
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Registered: 01-12-2005
In reply to: saelbrli
Mon, 06-12-2006 - 5:41pm

I'm very sorry about your heartbreak, it's still very raw.

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Registered: 05-03-2006
In reply to: saelbrli
Mon, 06-12-2006 - 6:45pm
Oh My god! I thought I was reading about me!
I just had the worst breakup of my life two months ago too.He was my divorce attorney.I know we should not have gotten involved but we fell in love, well my X found out and made our lives a living hell. We stuck it out for a year after the divorce but finally it got to my boyfriend and he decided to quit. I really feel for you because I loved him more than my X too. There is nothing more I want than to have him back but it wont be. I thought I was going to die, but finally its getting a little better. I still think of him and cry but I learning to think positively that it was for the better. My X will never leave us alone and would affect the children as it already has.I will be thinking about you but it will get better, little by little.
take care,
HC
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Registered: 11-14-2004
In reply to: saelbrli
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 8:48am
I tried that twice. I have gotten another lawyer to try to stop him now. He just doesn't stop. I wish more than anything it was that easy, unfortunatly the law does not protect women from this kind of harrassment. It is a very sad statement on todays society. They told me that he would physically have to hurt me for me to get a restraining order, not to mention the mental damage that he has done to our children. I wish there were a quick fix.
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Registered: 11-14-2004
In reply to: saelbrli
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 9:20am
Thanks, how did you deal with it. Right now I am getting angry. I just don't understand how somebody can love you so much yet leave? We were so happy, then bam,one fight. He always said that I would have to make him leave. I finally had given in to the fact we were secure, and then this happened. We were supposed to leave yesterday for a trip of a lifetime to Washington state to go to a family wedding with his entire family and we were both looking forward to it so much. This just hurts. He calls me to see how I am, he didn't want this either but he says that he can't do it anymore.
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Registered: 05-03-2006
In reply to: saelbrli
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 12:53am
How wild, I was suppose to be going to Greece/Turkey with him on the 5th.We planned it a year ago, and boom its all gone. its funny because I was so hurt and sad that I never even got angry, just sad. I never got to the angry faze. I think if my X wan't involved I would of been angry with him but with the crazy X involved I really couldn't blame him for leaving. But at the end of the day I know that he just didn't love me enough, or just could not handle the situation.I am now at the "acceptance" phase that it wasn't meant to be and to just remember the good things that he gave me and move on. I want to beleive that someday I will be with someone that could handle the "package" that I come with.
(the crazy X, my kids etc)I know its hard and its not fare but you know what, you will be OK.What doesn't kill you makes you stronger (and I really thought I was going to die from the pain!)Just focus on youself and your kids and I know it will get better!
take care,
HC