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| Mon, 12-17-2007 - 3:27pm |
My gf of five years broke it off a couple of months ago -- we had some contact initially (to tie up lose ends and what not).
| Mon, 12-17-2007 - 3:27pm |
Hi rossjack,
Can we please remember that she was the one who broke up with you?
I know you want to talk to her.
The way I've handled that issue in the past is to ask my exes to ONLY contact me if they are serious about getting back together.
I just dont feel right ignoring her and letting her figure it out for herself but if thats what people think is the right thing to do I may have to do it.
If you chose to keep "helping her out" then you are going to be in in for a long and painful ride. YOU are not responsible for how she thinks and feels. You are only responsible for how YOU think and feel. People that want people back are much more persistent I think then just one or two phone calls post break up. I wouldn't do anything unless she calls again, then do what I think Sheri said which is to politely say that you wish to be left alone unless thier is serious discussion about how to mend things. You give this girl way to much power, which I know is hard, because I was in a 5 year relationship too. But please try to focus on YOU right now.
What I've done in the past is to
Here is the problem I am having now...
I have not contacted her in anyway (nor do I really want to) because I feel like it will just fuel her belief that I will always be there as a backup plan or something.
It seems to me that this "problem" is easily solved by sending her an email making your position clear.