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She is going back to her husband
| Mon, 12-25-2006 - 12:31pm |
First of all, I just realized that this is a site for women and I am a guy. I apologize but I was so desperate and hopeless that I found this site truly reconforting. I am separated from my wife and she was separated from her husband. During one year whe had the most awesome and deep relationship of our lives. Our souls were truly connected. We were very much in love. Just recently we started to have differences because she decided to go back to her husband because of their daughter (5 years). She said that she didn't love him at all, that she loved me but needed to get back to him for convenience reasons. After almost 2 years of separation, she just left with him and their daughter to a vacation in Cuba. The image of both being together is a complete torture and before leaving she told me that she couldn't be with me anymore, that we will only be 'friends'. I am completely heartbroken, and don't know what to do. Should I call her when she is back on Dec. 31st? Should I wait for her call? Should I accept her proposal of just being friends when we were so close emotionally to each other? She broke up with me but I am clearly on the denial phase. I am still hoping that when she comes back from Cuba she will tell me that she had a terrible time missing me. Your thoughts will be a blessing for me!
Edited 12/25/2006 2:35 pm ET by coolsal
Edited 12/25/2006 2:35 pm ET by coolsal

Hi,
The only advice I Can give you is what I am always told: Do not call her.
Good Luck-
Gal Blondie
I'm sorry you have to go through this. Personally, this would be a dealbreaker and there would be no way I'd call when she got back from vacation.
::that she loved me but needed to get back to him for convenience reasons.
So loving you wasn't convenient? Or she just didn't want to work out custody? In my opinion, she had to have been talking to him for awhile for him to get her to agree to go on vacation as a family. I'm not sure he was 'over him' at any point.
Again sorry you have to go through this.
Carrie
Hello Coolsal,
So what if your a guy, you need support just as me.
i am turning to this board this week for survival.
I am you,my story was similar I was the other woman, this is my first week broken up and it is death, we have to realize there is no hope, and we need to move on, but it's scary.
I totally understand know when you are picturing your girlfriend and her husband together, I do the same thing with my ex-boyfriend and his wife. It makes you so sick you want to die really you want to die. My best advice to you is get a notebook and write everything in your head and get it out of you or else it's just going to be like a tape where it will play over and over and over again, you need to take the tape out and it will stop playing in your head. Got that advice from a book called "Letting Go"
Get it and read it.
Go to message board" Just broke up 4 days ago. you will see my story.
This site is mainly for women, but there are plenty of guys all over it, so welcome.
I know this is not what you want to hear...but knowing whether's back safe or not is the type of thing you have to get used to not knowing any more, because you're not a couple any more. This is part of the breakup and grieving process.
There will be many days like this, I'm afraid. You have to muscle through it and not call in order to get to the other side.
Sheri
Power through it.