Shocked and broken
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Shocked and broken
| Fri, 06-30-2006 - 5:41pm |
I was the happiest person on earth one day, enjoying a 3 year relationship and the next day I was dumped. I didn't see it coming and I wasn't prepared. We didn't have a fight or anything, he has just fallen out of love with me. It hurts so bad. I live in a new city where I have no friends other than his friends. I am all alone and I can't even put into words how sad I am. Today is day two and I am devastated. I just cry and sleep and cry more. I know I shouldn't contact him and it's just angering him but I keep calling him. He's the first person I ever thought I'd marry and the first person I ever saw myself having a life with. I don't know what to do with myself. He's my best friend and I miss him and I feel so much pain.

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Wow.
Susan
"Success is building a foundation wit
Geez- that's the worst, isn't it? The WORST! I'm not going to tell you to cheer up and move on - I think you know you will eventually, but right now it's so damn painful to even think about. I understand.
I'm going through a break up right now - today is day 5. It sucks despite the fact that I was the one that ended it. I haven't called him yet even though I want to so desperately I can't catch my breath sometimes. I just remind myself that he doesn't want to talk to me or else he'd be calling.
My sister said today that it's like a greiving a death but with me she thinks I'm greiving for the life I thought we were going to have. All these dreams and hopes I had for 'us' are now dead and it's harder to face that sometimes - if I'm honest about it. I had a picture in my head of 'us' 1, 3, 5, 10 years from now. I think I focused on that picture when things got rough or he disappointed me (again) or whatever. It was the picture that I was willing to work for. Not the person who made me feel insecure or unimportant and who was lying right beside me. I hate to admit that, but I was oblivious to a lot and put up with a lot of crap that maybe I wouldn't have if I'd kept this picture out of my head.
I'm telling you this because I don't know if you feel the same way - on some level. We women want so much for that security - that commitment. I don't see it as a fault of ours - just a fact. And I know that I want that security and commitment so much I put up with crap I never thought I would. I also really really believe that someone out there wants that with me too. I know I'm worth waiting for a great relationship - I'm worth fighting for - you are too. I believe that.
Try not to call him. It reminds me of quitting smoking. You get this crazy urge to smoke and think that if you do everything will be better and - well - you just want it so damn bad! But then it passes and you made another 15 minutes to your goal of never smoking again. But if you break down and light up - that's okay - just try again. You always have another chance to do better next time.
Please let us know how you're doing. I'll be thinking of you.
L
I am just going crazy because she doesn't want us to date other people says she is mixed up and that this is her problem. I so don't understand???????? She still wants to see me but that has always been the problem. We only spend weekends together and I want more.
I was just about to write her and I don't know why I don't because I am just miserable.
I tried to call her but her phone is off. I want to say ....enough already but don't have the balls....keep hoping this is only temporary, but when someone say's I have fallen out of love with you isn't that the end?
I am going through the exact same thing. Granted my relationship wasn't nearly as old as yours, but it was the same situation. I was so happy one day and then crying non-stop the next. I didn't understand what happened because it literally happened overnight. Something changed in him - maybe it was something I did, maybe he's bi-polar. I called him and sent him instant messages and emails which he never answered. This hurt even more. It's like he's purposely trying to hurt me. Then I realized that maybe if I just left him alone for a little while, things might have been different.
I wouldn't call him for awhile. I don't believe in oh well, it's done, dry your eyes and move on. Especially when considering a three year old relationship. Give him some time to think. Give yourself sometime to think. Although you're depressed now you may feel completely different in a month's time. If you still feel the same after a month, maybe try to give him a friendly call to see how he's doing.
Christine
I'm so sorry,
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