Should I believe him or break it off?
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|Mon, 09-30-2013 - 4:58pm|
My boyfriend and I have been together 6 years now. I'm at the point where I want to settle down, move in together, get married, have kids, etc.....actually I have been at that point for a few years now, and have been waiting on him to get his act together. I've stuck around because he's kept telling me we would get there, and because we've had some really good times and great memories together. He's so much a part of my life and I can't imagine not being with him.
But there have been some really bad times as well. He lied for years about what he was taking in school because he didn't want me to find out he didn't get into the program he wanted to get into. He lied about taking a vacation he never took. He's lied about numerous things, over and over again. I don't have solid proof he's cheated, but I've seen some texts to his friends about meeting girls ("Met another girl again but haven't hooked up with her yet," is one example). He's unreliable...shows up an hour past when he's said he would come by when we have plans. He's hot headed and flies off the handle over little things...and when he's mad, he'll do and say anything he can to try to hurt my feelings.
I've taken a step back lately and I'm debating breaking it off, but he swears to me he'll work to make me happy and there will be a ring on my finger by next year. He's being so unbelievably sweet and promising up and down he's been faithful. Am I stupid to believe him? I just can't bear losing the good we've shared, everything reminds me of him. But I don't want to stay in a cycle of such extreme highs and lows either, and keep waiting for things to move forward if they never will.