Should I break NC here?
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Should I break NC here?
| Sat, 05-26-2007 - 10:03pm |
My ex (I shudder when I say that) forwarded me the first pieces of mail that came to the house after I left. I got it today. His envelope that held all of them has the wrong house number. Made it here okay, but he's going to be mailing me the clothing I'd ordered and more residual mail that will be coming for probably another week or two.
This might be a dumb question, since it obviously made it here okay, but... do I break NC and just give him an FYI email? Has this ever happened to anyone? I was all set for NC, what do I do?
Thanks everyone-
bb

I see the reason behind NC but sometimes, especially if you've lived together, NC right from the beginning might be a little difficult.
I'm in the same situation and I've had to contact him to go over what items are his or mine, there was a problem with a bill we needed to talk about etc. So any contact we've had lately has been strictly "business" and I've made an effort (which is hard) to keep it that way. If its straight forward, I use e-mail but there have been a couple of conversations when its been absolutely necessary.
The next item for me is cancellation of our renters insurance. We both need to sign the form, so I have to let him know its here at the apartment. Total NC for me will likely be after I'm in the new apartment and everything else has been sorted out.
miish, thank you for sharing your experience. I was tempted to just let it go, but I purchased about $100 in clothing and I don't want to risk it not getting here, because that's not chump change for me.
I wish for my guy back. Plan B if that doesn't happen is not to set myself back from healing. Either way, I want to go about it correctly.
I'm not sure how to reconcile moving on and healing (which usually results from NC... right?) with wanting to get back together. But that should probably be a different post.
I'm also not sure how my written "6" would be mistaken for a "0", but I'm not going to bust a synapse on that one :P
I appreciate the dose of common sense. Take good care and I wish you well.
bb
Edited 5/27/2007 2:25 am ET by beingboring112
Honestly....the common sense comes and goes.
Like you, I'm struggling with wanting to get back together and wanting to move on and heal. But I know I can't be the one to pursue the relationship. If he decides he wants to get back together, he'll have to say so, because I've been hurt enough in all this. I'm going to try my best to be mature about the things we still need to be in contact for, and be strong enough to have NC for anything else. *sigh* I still struggle with the term "ex", but I managed to put the ring he gave me away. Baby steps I guess. :)
I wish you well too. We can get through this. We're so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for.