Should I call

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Registered: 06-15-2006
Should I call
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 12:24pm
Ok I posted a messagw about my bf breaking up with me , well today has been one week and 2 days we broke up and 4 days since I have talked to him on the phone and he told me to go on with my life but I still feel we can work it out, i want to call or something , I leave home and come back and hoped he called me but nope not a chance or may he sent me a e-mail but nope he didn't do that either, how can men be like that and just move on with life as if nothing ever happend as if you never had any posion for each other, I don't get it , should I call even to say hi and I am doing good????????? Please help
We only went out for 4 months but he gave me a promise ring and dumped me 3 weeks later if that helps on what I should do , i loved him and still do.


Edited 6/18/2006 12:29 pm ET by simkittyrose32
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 12:31pm
I am sorry to hear about your situation.
I know how you feel. My boyfriend broke up with me about 5 weeks ago. I havent heard from him since. We didnt break up on bad terms. Never had an argument, no bad words or anything. Met face to face. Even drove together in the same car to get a coffee where he broke up with me. Told me he would give me a call and even gave me a hug before we left. I figured i would give him a call just as a friend the other day just to see how he was doing. I called a few different times. I just kept getting his voice mail. Finally on the last try i left a message on his voice mail to give me a call when he had a chance so we could just catch up. That was 4 days ago. He never returned my call. I dont understand why he wont even talk to me when we left each other on good terms. So, I would say not to call him. You have to think of what if you call him and he doesnt answer....or you leave him a message and he doesnt call you back.?? will that make you feel worse than you do now??? i know it did me. I hope you feel better soon.
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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 1:31pm
No, don't call. It will make you feel worse than you do now. I know you love him still and what he did is very unfair. But why do you want to be with a guy who would do that to you anyway? You deserve so much better. Don't call. Give yourself time to mourn this relationship. A week isn't nearly enough. You will feel better in time and you will heal quicker if you don't contact him. Contacting him will just lead to a teary conversation and it isn't going to change the way he feels, which will just make you feel worse. Call a friend instead. Or if all your friends are out visiting their dads today, then read and post here.
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Registered: 06-15-2006
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 6:21pm
Iamdelightful , you helped me when he dumped my butt and now your so right about this one to thanks, your great.......simmy
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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 10:35am

Hi!

I know what you are going through. My ex broke up with me because he didn't want to be in a relationship right now, etc.. Anyway. At first I kept calling him every few days, and it always ended up with me crying trying to get him to come back.

Then I decided that I needed time to heal myself before I could talk to him again. I went 4 weeks without talking to him. When I finally called him it was great, he was glad I called because he was afraid that I hated him, so he hadn't called me. I could talk to him normally in a friendly way. We are now talking about every 3-4 days. I do still want to get back together with him, but I know its not up to me, its up to him. He still loves me, so yeah I have hope, but I'm not waiting around for it either.

Take some time to heal, then when you feel like you can talk to him without getting emotional call him.

Hope this helps.

~Amber~