SHOULD I CALL????
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| Wed, 12-01-2004 - 2:22pm |
Ok guys here's my LONG story and I need your opinions. My ex boyfriend of 5 years just left a message on my work number crying his eyes out. Today is exactly one year since his best friend died of an asthma attack. Last year during this time we were together and I was of course there for him through it. He left a crying message saying he needed someone to talk to and wasnt doing too good so please call him.
2 months ago I broke up with him because he has a serious problem with getting other women's phone numbers. He moved 3 hours away from me and when I would visit him on the weekends, I would go through his stuff and find pieces of paper with phone numbers stuffed away in drawers, etc. I never said anything but got the password to his cell phone account online and that explained it all. He was calling other women left and right at all times of the morning during the week and of course during the weekend there was no activity on his phone bill since I was with him. So when I confronted him about it, he said he was sorry and to please take him back, etc. So I did and the next month's phone bill came out and there were new numbers, etc. So i broke up with him and he kept calling but I would never answer. Well, he called me the day before Thanksgiving and we talked, I cried because it is our first Thanksgiving apart in 4 years. I let him know he hurt me because he cannot control himself and that I could never trust him again. He wants to get back with me but admitted he has a 'problem' talking to other women. I told him I could not accept it and he just needs to get his life together and that I could never ever be with him. He promised he was getting his life together and he is trying to save up for a ring so we can get married. He has been calling every day leaving messages since Thanksgiving about how he hopes we can be together and how much he loves me.
WELL, yesterday his monthly phone bill came out so of course I looked at it (he doenst know I still have the password). I was curious to see if he was really telling the truth about getting his life together and calming down. What I found was the total opposite and unbeleivable. HE ACTUALLY GOT WORSE. He made 976 calls last month and I counted 68 new numbers!!! Some were called once or twice, some were ongoing throughout the month. It hurt my heart to see one number called 9 times from the course of 3:30 a.m. - 4:15 a.m. then he checked his voicemail at 6:25 a.m. So we all know what he did. Went to her house, had sex, got in the car afterwards and checked his voicemail. Get this, the day before Thanksgiving when we talked, he called 3 different girls after me!!! So his uncontrollable and unbeleivable behavior is what is stopping me from calling him back just to comfort him today.
When I heard the message this morning a tear came to my eye because he sounded really sad. I called my best friend and asked her advice and she said don't call, just said him a sympathy ecard. She said if I call, he's going to think it O.K. between us and he is looking for comfort in me like he had last year when he was going through the same situation.
So after reading about my breakup and my situation, should I call him????
Edited 12/1/2004 2:31 pm ET ET by fashiongirl5516
Edited 12/1/2004 2:37 pm ET ET by fashiongirl5516

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