Should I contact him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-08-2007
Should I contact him?
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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 3:11pm

Here’s my previous post about my break up if you want to know my history…


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=25110.1&ctx=128


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2008
Thu, 03-06-2008 - 7:31pm

Hi ccheckers,

It sounds to me like you know the answer, but just don't like it. I have gone through this before and responded thinking I was being a "good friend". That's cr*p. I ended up being a "good friend" and thinking he wanted to get back together for 2 years. He didn't want to get back together. He really just wanted to be friends. If you want to be friends with him that's OK, but let yourself heal a bit first. I think one of the on-line therapists here referred a minimum 1 month period and more likely 6 months (I hope I remembered that correctly!).

Good luck.

Trillian6

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2003
Thu, 03-06-2008 - 7:33pm

checkers - do you think you can talk to him and tell him you don't want him to contact you until some time has passed? Or do you think you can talk to him about what he wants? If he doesn't want to get back together, then tell him you can't talk to him for awhile. I'm sorry I didnt read your original story - but from what you wrote, I'd say you haven't had the no contact tlak with him. Maybe you need to do this so he stops calling.


Hope it works out better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 12:55pm

He could be testing the waters, could be just wanting to be your friend, BUT if he's not saying he wants to try and work it out, well then I think you do know the answer.


If you reply, can you handle that it's just friendly conversation?