Should I feel bad?
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Should I feel bad?
| Wed, 07-28-2004 - 2:58pm |
I had reunited with my ex boyfriend recently which was probably 2 and half month ago. We were broken up for about 5 months. We started to be friends again and also involves with benefits. Which means we're in a fwb relationship. Probably a few weeks ago he's been calling me more than once a week to hang out and of course it involves sex. I had told him that I don't want to see each other too often as it might lead to getting too attached. He was fine with it and asked if he could be my Sunday's. I thought that wasn't too bad so I said yes. So, we met on Sunday about 2 weeks ago. Had dinner, went to the movies and etc.. This past Sunday he had stood me up. I had called him and left him a message on his cell asking whether we were meeting up. I didn't hear from him. 3 hours later I called again and left him a message telling him to let me know whether or not we're meeting. Still nothing. Monday comes, he didn't even call me to apologize. So, I became a nice person on Tuesday and sent him an e-mail to find out if he was ok. He replied back saying that everything's good. He was out of town and that he'll call at night to hang out. I was so upset knowing that he made plans knowing that we meet on Sunday's... He could've atleast given me a call to cancel. I would've been fine with that. He tried calling me twice and I have not answered his calls because I wanted to end it. I feel like he treated me disrespectfully when I was his girlfriend and now as a friend. I felt that I could never get the respect I need from him. Just wasn't fair. So, I sent him an e-card to say my goodbye. I told him that he didn't respect me and that it's not worth it. I know he has picked up the e-card already. For some reason I feel really bad right now. I don't know what it is that's bothering me. I feel like I did a bad thing like hurting his feelings. Should I be feeling this way?
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| Wed, 07-28-2004 - 3:21pm |
Its natural to feel bad about hurting other people even when they hurt you. Its definitely a woman thing becuase we are so sensitive to how other people (esp those we love) feel. But it sounds like you did the right thing. Try not to feel too bad because if you felt that you could never get the respect u needed from him then he wasnt treating you like you should be treated. You deserved some kind of warning that he was going to be out of town and the fact that he didnt even apologize makes me feel that he didnt feel very bad about what he did to you. As for the FWB relationship, I have been there and it never seems to work. I always remember this little saying "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Its old and sounds funny but its true. Trust me "benefits" dont usually make them want to get back together. If they are already getting the goods without the strings attached then why buy into a relationship again? Just something to think about. For now hold your ground and hang in there. Dont feel too bad becuase you have to do what is best for you at this point and dont worry about him. I hope this helps. Good Luck
| Wed, 07-28-2004 - 3:48pm |
Thanks Tigger. I really appreciate your response to my posting. I do feel better knowing that it's normal to feel bad for hurting someone you love and knowing it was the right thing I did for myself.
