should I make him go?

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Registered: 12-09-2007
should I make him go?
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Sun, 12-09-2007 - 11:20am
My husband of just over three years has had a drinking problem for quite some time now. He has never been physically abusive but mentally and emotionally abusive quite a bit- he has threatened physical abuse. I was in a car accident two years ago that has resulted in me having permanent injuries to my neck and back and I have as a result gained about 50 pounds not being able to go to the gym or Anyway at all. I also cannot complete many of the household tasks that I used to- he gets very sarcastic and hurtful when I mention that my back is hurting. Anyway- that's the background, here's the breaking point. This week was my birthday and he didn't come home until after When so we never did anything and then I fell on the driveway due to him not being considerate. When I confronted him about these things he got very mad and kicked a hole in our office door, he then spent the night on the couch. I called him the next morning on his way to work and apologized for getting so upset but explained that I cannot go to the doctor should I get hurt as a result of no medical ins. He yelled at me and hung up- this was Friday and I HAVE NOT SEEN HIM SINCE!!! He took off and has been drinking with people who are in their early twenties all while letting me sit here and worry that he is hurt somewhere on the side of the road because he never called. I found out that he had emailed a friend of his yesterday asking how to get ahold of one of his ex's and then last night I tried to call him on his cell phone and some girl called back TO MY HOUSE AND ASKED ME WHO THE F*** I WAS!!! Not sure what I can do or how to keep my cool when he does show up here- I have that intense anger and hurt that just makes you shake and want to throw up..................help me please
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 1:00pm

Welcome to the board tactfulrain,


You already stated that he's abusive , so personally I would suggest that you don't do anything to escalate it.

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Registered: 06-30-2002
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 3:02pm

Hi, I'm Deb.


 


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