Should I rent an apartment near him?

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Should I rent an apartment near him?
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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 2:53pm
My boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago and we lived together for 3 years (we were together for a total of 5). I had moved across the country 3 years ago to live with him. Initially when we broke up, my first instinct was to move away and live and find a job somewhere else because I thought it would be too painful to stay around here. But now that some time has passed I feel that uprooting myself at this time would make me feel even worse. I don't want too many changes right now. My job is the only stable thing I have in my life right now. I am about to put a deposit down on a small apartment that is perfect for now - it is furnished, close to work, and month to month (that way if I need to leave, I'm not tied to a lease). The only problem is that it is 10 minutes from where I used to live with my ex (he still lives there) and I am worried that being so close and seeing all the places we used to go will make me depressed and make it harder to move on. I am also worried that I will run into him (especially if he is with another girl). I feel like I will always be looking over my shoulder. On the other hand, I don't want to give him the power to dictate what I do and where I go in my life. So confused....
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Registered: 06-16-2006
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 3:27pm

hi abcd2girl

nope i dont think is a good idea..its waste of time to be moving around. if you ever see him in a street so what...i think it much better coz you have a chance to show off and show him what he lost. good luck