Should I return His Call

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Should I return His Call
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 7:28pm
Long story short. I am recently divorced. During my sepeartion, I met and fell truly in love for the first time in my life with a wonderful man, who I dated for 8 monthes. Two months ago, I found out I was preganant and wanted an abortion. I love children, but am 40 and have 2 teenagers, he has 3 children and I did not want to start over. He relectantly agreed to the abortion. I was raised to believe that abortion is wrong and had a tough time making the choice. Three days before the abortion, I broke up with him. Not because I stopped loving him, but so that I could emotionally steeel myself to go through with the abortion. He was shocked and very hurt and confused. He still went to the clinic with me and took car of me afterwards. For the next week we still saw each other talked and exchanged ILYs, then he broke down and told me he is confused and can't do this emotionally. I asked him to go out and talk about it, he agreed then said he could not do it at that moment. I got pissed and asked for my stuff back. He dropped it off, I slammed the door on him. we have exchanged a couple emails since, he said that he still loves me, but is not ready to work out our problems yet, so I said fine. Yesterday, I ACCIDENTLY hit his number on speed dial while trying to call my son. He called back, but I did not pick up. I know that he is ready to talk because he picked up the phone. Should I return his call?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 2:00pm
He called and left me a voicemail. What should I do??????
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2005
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 2:48pm

Probably not but what did the voicemail say?

L

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 3:45pm
I love you and miss you and wnat to talk/
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 3:46pm

Looks like the two of you have a alot of emotions built up over the breakup coupled with the abortion, both of which are totally understandable.

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 4:20pm
Thanks for the advice. I am not in a good place to talk to him right now. Maybe I will call him within the next couple days.....We both said that our feelings for one another have not changed, but I am not sure given the problems that we have had we can work them out..so I am starting to rebuild my life/ Going up with my best friend for lunch tomorrow and having a couple girlfriend sover to watch some comedies and chick flicks tonight...i need to get use to life without him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2005
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 4:42pm

Sounds like you know what you need to do for you right now. I was going to also suggest you wait a few days until you talk with him.

Take care of you :)

Hugs

L

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 4:50pm

It's much easier to follow someone's story if they post to their original post instead of starting a new one.

For those reading, knkoneday, just added:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=21858.7&next=yes


Carrie

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 6:24pm

Still have not returned his call. Can't do it. I feel that it will shut the healing process right down