should i see him or just avoid him?

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Registered: 11-07-2007
should i see him or just avoid him?
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 2:10pm


hi everyone.

i've been considering this for a while. it's only been a week since my ex ended things. we have a baby together and he is supposed to come pick up baby tonight, and i'm not sure if i should be there to hand baby off, or just have my parents do it - i don't want to see him at all, it's still very difficult for me to even accept the fact that it's over, and i don't want the risk of me crying in front of him to be amplified. i know when i see him i'll want to throw my arms around him and hug and kiss him and tell him i love him and ask him "why???" but i can't do that.

i also do know that if i am not there, that me avoiding him would just become habit, that i'd never be able to face the day when i AM ready to face him again, and that would just be even more awkward.

i know we have a child together and i can't avoid him forever, but right now, i'm not ready to see him because i know he won't change his mind, and seeing him will just hurt all the more.

what do i do?

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