Should I Stay or Go?

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Registered: 11-20-2007
Should I Stay or Go?
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Tue, 11-20-2007 - 2:34pm
I have been with my bf for almost 4 years now, we've been living together for 1 year. Over the past months I met an old friend of mine, we've secretly loved each other but we never
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Registered: 11-19-2007
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 2:49pm

Go with whichever

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 5:31pm

Welcome to the board complicated_21,


Your relationship has issues, your past love is shedding light on those issues, but it does NOT mean the grass is greener.


You have to decide to either work through the issues you have with your guy or end it, with or without the possiblity of a relationship with the other guy.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Tue, 11-20-2007 - 11:00pm

This is a textbook case of thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Carrie is right, the fact that your friend has financial stability is simply putting your boyfriend's lack of it in the glaring spotlight. Of course the difference between them is huge in comparison that way. Doesn't mean the second guy is better for you than the first, though.

I'd suggest you take a step back from the friend and either fix your relationship with your boyfriend or get out of it. One, after four years he deserves that much, and two, if you do decide to start a new relationship (although it seems based on somewhat flimsy grounds) that deserves to start with a fresh slate, not a dirty one that's been soiled by betrayal and infidelity.

Good luck,

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Registered: 09-30-2006
Wed, 11-21-2007 - 1:20pm

a couple other thoughts...


giving up a sure thing (you're boyfriend now) for an unknown (the other guy) is a risk. has the guy asked you to leave your boyfriend & date him instead?


money is not equal to happiness. remember, successful guys have less time to spend with you. so pick your priorities carefully. i personally prefer guys with basic careers so they have more time to spend with me. i can make my own money, i can't make them make time for me, that's their choice.


also, there's an easy way to encourage fiscal responsibility: stop supporting your boyfriend, period. that's a decent incentive. if you still have financial issues, i'd seriously reconsider as the strain will get worse & he might not change his job patterns.


good luck!