Should I Try to Start Over With Him?

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Should I Try to Start Over With Him?
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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 1:51am

Hi, and thanks for reading. This is my first time posting something like this, so I'll try to be concise.

Since August I've been single and "free" from an almost-2-year relationship and have recently been thrilled with single life. I wasn't even a wreck or anything. Especially because I'm in college, I thought this would be great. And it has been, until a week ago. Lately I have not been able to stop thinking about my ex and am desperately trying to decide whether the break-up in August was the right thing to do. I hear about him and I just melt. Even the seemingly insignificant reminders catch me off guard and I am nostalgic to the point of tears sometimes.

Some things I have figured out so far which make this situation more complicated are, most importantly, the distance between us and the fact that we were each other's first very serious relationship. As college students we are apart, 1,500 miles apart, for 6 months out of the year. We managed to maintain he relationship successfully for the first 2 semesters, but I guess somewhere over the summer we decided that we have two very different sets of priorities and knew that saving us from another ridiculously tearful separation might be the best thing.

It was a mutual break-up, but he had said that there's a great possibility of getting back together with me. Weird. I thought I should also add that he's extremely sensitive and can attach himself easily.

Anyway, I'm having the hardest time estimating his thoughts and debating whether I should try to tell him what's up and/or maybe start over. I feel as though he will be the one who got away.

Thanks,

Melissa

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 1:18pm

Welcome to the board Melissa,


Everything you feel is normal.

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Registered: 09-30-2006
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 1:22pm

:Don't confuse grief with love:


You are very wise...

 

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 1:24pm
:0) - on my good days LOL thanks




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Registered: 10-09-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 12:45pm
Hi Melissa,
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 3:33pm

Welcome to the board robynann2007,


Thanks for joining in.





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