should i wait or dumb him know
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should i wait or dumb him know
| Mon, 11-01-2004 - 5:12am |
Ok so along time ago my bf was looking at porn and i took all of my stuff out of his house and was going to dumb him if he was not going to stop and erase all of the porn. Well just today i found a new picture but this picture is incomplete and when i click on it nothing comes up but still it is still the thought that he wanted to download this picture. I just want to know if i should dumb him know over this picture (i mean i do love him like crazy) or should i wait and see if it happens again and if it does should i break up then? please i need help please...
thankyou very much
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| Mon, 11-01-2004 - 10:58am |
It is highly unlikely that you making ultimatums will change his pornography habits. There are males who use it and males who don't. Some women are o.k. with this and they can even enjoy it as a couple. If this is his primary source of sexual gratification, then you've got an even bigger problem. Even if he outwardly "obeys" your demands, in his heart, he'll most likely remain addicted to porn, if only in his imagination (which you have no control over). He will likely become even more secretive and more withdrawn from you as he tries to hide his habit. He may even resent you for trying to control this very private habit which was established long before you arrived on the scene. If YOU are not comfortable with porn (and many people are not), then YOU need to find someone who shares your sexual values. You will have nothing but disappointment trying to change your man into something he is not. Good luck.
| Mon, 11-01-2004 - 10:54pm |
im not sure if you will read this but my god you are so right and i really apreacite what you said and everything you said was so true that it was not even funny how true it was. Yes he has been looking at porn for a long time before he meet me and when i came in to the scene he was looking at like hard porn. videos that would be two or five min. Yes it also is his mean of sexual stuff. Awhile back ago in are relationship before i complained about it. He would be downstaris while i was upstairs and he would look and jack of to porn for like three hours or even more sometimes... i think taht is what got to me. anyways thankyou very much.....
