should we get back together?
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| Sun, 12-09-2007 - 9:30am |
I’ve been going out with my b/f for 6 years almost 7( we broke up dec,7).. Yes a long time but lately I just don’t feel the same about out relationship( for about 6 months), I do care for him deeply and I don’t want to hurt him but I feel that maybe its time to end it. There a lot of history with us and I know its not going to be easy but I feel that staying apart is the right thing to do, he feel quite the opposite. He REALLY wants to get back together. Im 23 hes 27 we started dating when I was 16, we see each other about 2 times a week b/c we kind of live far from each other. About 2 weeks ago I have a conversation with him about his gaming…he plays games all day and he kind of took it offensively and since then every time we see each other we get into an argument. He says if we get back together he will make en effort to see me more, normally I go to his house one day and he comes to mine the next….. He is really stressed b/c he doesn’t have a job and he cant seem to find one ( Michigan job market is bad) I just don’t know what to do I really care for him and I don’t wanna hurt him if I tell him I don’t wanna get back together is going to hurt him A LOT …..i just don’t know what to do….. Another thing that bothers me is really we don’t talk to each others family….my family is really important to me and I want him to be a part of my family….family is not so important to him he thinks that it will come in time…but its been almost 7 year and he still cant talk to my family and vise versa……really confused I need some help….

Welcome to the board silkyg023,
Before you decide to get back together, please consider the book: Are You the One for Me? by Barbara DeAngelis.
You are right to question your futrue with this guy.
SilkyG
i understand what you are going through. I just broke up with my boyfriend today, and we would have been together for three years on Dec 27. We've known each other however for over 6 years. The way i see it is, as individuals a break up my be reasonable and needed in order to regain a bit of self individuality, self respect, and self identity.
So see this as your time to think about the issues you all have and argue about, and decide whether or not this person is important enough to even argue with. Think about the future. You may feel as if you aren't sure about getting back with him, however is this a man that you could see holding your first born? taking long walks in the park with? growing old on the porch together? If you can truly answer yes to these questions, that means you are at some point willing to be with him again, and you shouldn't just surrender to the only idea of not possibly getting back with him.
i wish you luck in your relationship with your boyfriend, or any relationship you decide to pursue in the future.
::he's telling me if we get back together things will change .....but why now?? why am i so willing to say goodbye so fast after so long ? and he's trying so hard for us to get back together??
Some people read 'exit' signs in a relationship better than others.