Should You Allow Yourself to Cry?
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| Sat, 02-18-2006 - 10:40pm |
I don't understand this whole breaking up thing!! Why should I allow myself to be heartbroken over some inconciderate, manipulative, selfish person?? How is that fair to anyone? I honestly thought that I was the strongest person, I have my head on straight... I know that I am amazing! So why have I allowed myself to fall apart over someone who has treated me so badly?
I am completely heartbroken, by the one I loved, the one I trusted, the one whom I put my whole self into!! It just seems like a bad dream...not reality!
So,here's the thing... if your interested!!
I have been dating this guy for a very short time, I have known this guy for a very short time... so I guess you could say "Shame on Me!!" I met him 8 months ago, and we started dating 3 weeks later... so quick, I know! But this kid was amazing... I had never been so happy in all my life, I had never allowed myself to become close to anyone, but he had this thing over me and I couldn't resist him! He was my everything, and I was his!! We never faught, only occasional arguments.. and now this... it's like completely out of the blue!!
It happened the day before Valentines, isn't that ironic? His friends want him to go to Vegas, which is understandable... but he doesn't feel comfortable being together while he is gone!!!! What is that even suppose to mean? I am so angry, I feel abondoned, I feel used!! It says this is only temporary until he comes back... but all I have to say is HELL No! Why should I allow this to happen, I may be young but Im not stupid! How can he be willing to give up everything for one weekend?
I love this kid with all my heart, so do I hurt myself worse by allowing this to happen and then take him back when he's ready or do I fall completely apart standing up for myself by doing what I know is right!! Are there times when you should let selfish pride ruin your life? I am so lost! I am just lost!!

loveitloseit...
PG feels you're under NO OBLIGATION to take anybody back who has expressed a desire to leave!
Some women...because they feel lost, abandoned, or downright angry about not getting closure the way they expected...will take a man back for the sole purpose of GETTING THAT CLOSURE!
So to answer your question.....I think it depends upon whether a woman is willing to "forgive and try again"....or goes by the theory...."once bitten, twice shy?'
Pianoguy