Shouldn't I be over it by now?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2005
Shouldn't I be over it by now?
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:36pm

My ex and I broke up 4 months ago… and we’d only dated for 6 months. And yet I still feel like we were great together and if he was to want to get back together, I’d talk to him about it. (We broke up because he was overwhelmed by grad school and said he didn't have any time for a relationship).

Why do I still have so much hope for him to be the one? He obviously chooses not to be with me anymore, so why don’t I let go? How do I stop thinking about what I wish could be? And how do I get comfortable with the random encounters we will have? We both climb at the local rock gym and bump into each other every now and then. We've chatted whenever we've run into each other and talked about climbing together. But I’m so sad, hurt, angry, in love still, that I don’t know when/how I’ll be able to ok with being friends.

I’m so frustrated that this is still such an impact on my life. Everything else in my life is great, and yet it doesn’t feel great because it’s overshadowed by my sadness. I feel like I’m missing out.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2005
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 3:00pm

I'm sorry you are still feeling sad about your break up.

Nikki