Sick joke or just thick?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2007
Sick joke or just thick?
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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 3:09pm

Hi

Well after nearly two months my ex has finally sent me back my things which im pleased about but he had the front to include a dvd he bought me ages ago 'The break up' which was the first thing i saw when i opened the packaging.

Does he really think i was pineing for that one back?! I cant help but wonder if this was just his idea of a joke or he just generally didnt stop and think about how insensitive it was. I know i should just let it go, but its little things like this (plus the fact the rest of my stuff looked like it had been thrown in the box) make me seriously believe i never really knew him...

I broke NC over email to say i recieved it all, and i couldnt help having a moan about it now he probs thinks im still really bitter, i am but i was doing well not to show him that :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-28-2007
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 3:24pm
Well at least you got your stuff back! I bet he didn't even think about it when he threw it in there. As you said, it looked like he just threw it all in a box. He probably just went around collecting things that he saw of yours and then taped it up and sent it. I wouldn't read too much into it. Guys, at least the guys I know, don't think about stuff like that or how we are going to take it. Im sure he isn't looking for ways to torture you. I would continue no contact... meaning no more emails.. and move on. You don't want to show him you are bitter, but you did just that. So show him you are not bitter by keeping to your no contact. Take this time to get over those bitter feelings and anger. There is already enough of that in this world. And you never know... he was an integral part of your life at one point in time... if you get over these bitter feelings, you might have a chance at a friendship one day. That is..if you want one. But I find anger just makes things a lot worse. Personally, those feelings made me say some really mean things (luckily only to my best friends and not him). But I didn't like the person I was when I felt that way. Now that I let those feelings go, I feel so much better and feel like I am almost completely there as far as moving on goes ( I still get that nagging missing you feeling sometimes). I am also starting to see someone else, as well as have my exe as a friend again. Much happier...