The pain will go away if you avoid him at ALL COSTS. Any person who rubs it in their ex's face that they are with so-and-so, getting married, having sex, etc. is a lowlife. If he calls you, don't answer. If you see him in public and he comes up to you and starts talking to you about his fiancee, politely excuse yourself. You can't get over someone unless you do these things.
With you 100%. I know for a fact that i am only missing the person that i thought he was. The idea of him, like you said. Usually in the beginning those guys are what we want them to be, they are the perfect guy, and then they show their true selves and we can't stand them, but we stick around because we love them. Then they leave, and so they give that next girl the "perfect guy" again, but more than likely they will turn into that same guy that they did with us. Who knows, maybe they'll stay with that girl, but i'm sure you know what we see on the outside of other peoples relationships are not what it really is. Obviously these guys that we are talkin about are cruel and mean, they're not going to change, they might briefly, but for good? no way.
I think we girls who have been in relationships with these heartless, arrogant guys are strongest. We're so much more stronger than we were before we had them. :)
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My heart goes out to you. I wish we could just sit over coffee and comfort each other because I went thru this a few months ago.
Hey Lindsey!
First off, YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN!
The pain you feel will eventually lessen over time but you have to give it time and be proactive in your healing.
When my ex left me he told me he learned from our relationship. That
With you 100%. I know for a fact that i am only missing the person that i thought he was. The idea of him, like you said. Usually in the beginning those guys are what we want them to be, they are the perfect guy, and then they show their true selves and we can't stand them, but we stick around because we love them. Then they leave, and so they give that next girl the "perfect guy" again, but more than likely they will turn into that same guy that they did with us. Who knows, maybe they'll stay with that girl, but i'm sure you know what we see on the outside of other peoples relationships are not what it really is. Obviously these guys that we are talkin about are cruel and mean, they're not going to change, they might briefly, but for good? no way.
I think we girls who have been in relationships with these heartless, arrogant guys are strongest. We're so much more stronger than we were before we had them. :)
You mentioned long distance-
Hi lindsyloo,
Have you read these yet?
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=24935.1
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