(sigh) I need to confess
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(sigh) I need to confess
| Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:16pm |
My Ex-bf has given me his myspace password a few months ago, Not that I'm checking his myspace, well I do from an outside perspective (I do not log in as him) he does still have our pictures up and states hes in a relationship (I'm just assuming he hasn't had the time or doesn't care to change it)

I'm sorry that you're going through this.
I don't have my ex's passwords, but god, I can't imagine if I did. Checking his Facebook, last.fm, blogs and everything else was a bad enough habit to break, but I can't imagine if I had access to the behind-the-scenes stuff as well. I got to the point where I had to block the websites from myself (if you're interested, check out this Lifehacker article describing how to). I just did that two days ago, but I have to admit, it's getting easier. I set up a script on my computer that pops up a little window that says "Enough of him! You're stronger than that and don't need to check these websites!" every time I try to open one of the pages. Slowly but surely, I type the addresses less and less and it gets easier each time.
I wish you the best of luck as you're retraining yourself to try to stay off the sites. As for him not changing the relationship status yet: maybe he doesn't want to deal with it yet himself, or maybe he genuinely hasn't logged in yet, but will change the status as soon as he does? Either way, I wouldn't read too much into it, and the less you check it, the better you're going to feel. The old adage "ignorance is bliss" really is true in this case.
uncommononsense
I can't go back to yesterday--because I was a different person then. --L. Carroll
hey kmc. i am in the same situation. i know my exboyfriends passwords to his email and myspace. i knew them when we were together for the 3.5 years and i would look at his stuff almost daily. i dont know why, it almost became a habit. he never knew that i could look at all his email and private messages. he never got anything that was suspicious so i dont know why i felt the need to keep looking.
as for after the breakup i obsessively checked his myspace page to see if he had changed his status or taken our pictures off. he didnt do it till after 3 weeks into our breakup. for those 3 weeks i would also sign in to his myspace to see what he was telling people about our breakup. mostly he was just telling people how sad he was. the day that he changed his status to "Single" and took me off his top friends and took down all the pictures of me, i just stopped looking. till that day i havent signed on to read his email or messages. i dont even look at his myspace page at all. i know that the day i do and i see that he is "in a relationship" i will probably break down. so now i am just keeping myself away from all of that. its not really that hard to do when you think about how much pain you could possibly cause YOURSELF. whenever i'm fully over the breakup and have healed i'll be able to look at his page and see what he's up to. till then... its off limits for me. good luck! :)
I just have to laugh, because, "is it me or are guys just really stupid" when it comes to that stuff?