Sitting here watching

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Registered: 05-23-2004
Sitting here watching
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 11:42pm
him pack up his stuff and there is nothing I can do. He said it is over and I was the only one not to see it. he said that he has to start his life over. Blamed me for his son not being happy. He wants to move out this weekend. He has said it before but never moved stuff. I am going crazy. Why is he doing this to me?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 1:27pm

Welcome to the board teachermegs,


I want you to not take his action personal.

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Registered: 06-06-2007
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 4:00pm
I know you feel bad. I fortunately was able to move before he did (which I had to scramble to do and we were in a rental thankfully!!!), but I know it is hard. It is always hard and hurtful and you cry and feel like crap. Try not and let yourself be convinced of things that are not true, that you aren't good enough or you didn't do things right. A relationship is two people and both have to work at it. Good luck and hugs. You may, like me, say THANK GOD after a while :)
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Registered: 07-14-2007
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 4:33pm

I was just thinking how I went through something similar just a bit ago. The first time he 'broke it off' i sat there and did much like you did.

Second time and final time, I rolled up my sleeves, dumped everything of his in a box, and took a shower while he was going out the door. Then of course I cried in the shower. I was DAMNED if I'd let him think he could control me through my emotions. While I was throwing his things in a box, I must have asked myself 500 times whether or not I was doing the right thing. And oddly enough, right now, there's no moment I'm prouder of (so to speak) then when I picked up my dignity and showed him the door.

The bottom line is that none of this is your fault. If his son is unhappy, you have to realize that ultimiately the boy's happiness is not a product of anything you did. If you two didn't get along, it is because of poor decisions that your ex made. You can only be responsible for yourself.

cheer up. There are good times ahead and fine friends on thsi board to see you to them.

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your