smothered with a new man and missing my
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| Sat, 02-11-2006 - 8:48am |
My ex of 3.5 years and I split in Sept. We were on and off til end of Nov. He lives in another city so long distance was a big reason for the split. Also we have a 20 year age gap (he is younger). It was an amicable split and I never want him back. I realize it was good to end it and move on.
I tried NC and he fought it bad getting very angry and upset. Finally in early Jan. he got it and we are now having NC. I will see him in April when he comes home for Easter. I hope we can be friends but if not, I am fine.
Meanwhile I starting casually dating a new man in Dec. This man has liked me for 4 years and is completely ga ga. He tells me he loves he and is very doting. We started being intimate recently so I gave it 8 weeks of casual before getting more serious. He is a catch, super nice, hard working, smart, fun, likes my kids and more. BUT I keep comparing him to my ex: the way he smells, clothes, the way he dances...EVERYTHING. Simply put, my ex and I fit..we had a nice rhythm and life. I miss it. Yes, I know all the bad but..
And this new man cannot sleep with me..he has sleep issues. He also drinks more than I like..I am just feeling smothered..AND he tells me he loves me every 5 min. and asks if I love him..well I do a little..I am a Cancer so love easy..haa..there is a lot to love BUT..I feel overwhelmed.
In Dec. I told him I wanted to take it slow...sigh..now what...
I leave town soon for 4 weeks so will have a chance to re group. What to do??
