SO ANGRY (bear with me...its long)
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| Fri, 07-06-2007 - 4:34pm |
My ex is a jerk. He dumped me in April but insisted that we stay friends. I said, no, not right now. I need to move on with my life. We broke up once before and that time I was DESPERATE to stay friends (maybe because I thought we'd get back together down the road). Well, it didn't work. We didn't stay friends then, but we did end up getting back together 4 months later. This time, he talked about getting engaged...basically played me for a fool. Then he dumps me over the phone over my "communication" issues. I do not have problems with communicating. If I did, and he really cared for me, he'd have wanted to work things out. He was just looking for an out. He was incredibly condescending when we broke up, telling me we're on different "levels". Please. I was a supportive, loving girlfriend who put up with his crap for too long. EVERYONE came before me...everyone. I didn't even feel like his girlfriend. He made it seem like he was perfect, when in fact he was a pretty awful boyfriend.
I saw him last month at my friend's bbq after 2 months of no contact. He said hello...I was cordial and confident. He told a mutual friend he thought I would be nervous because he was there. He has an enormous ego. But I showed him...I looked hot and had fun! He was the one who looked uncomfortable. Still, I was nice to him, when I think that acting like a b*tch would have been understandable. But that's not me. I have handled this breakup with dignity and class. He has told friends that I am being childish because I don't want to talk to him. I explained when we were breaking up that it'd be too hard to be friends right now, and he said he understood. He talks about me now (I know this for a fact) and he is SO INCREDIBLY bitter and hostile when my name is even mentioned...like I DID something wrong. I just made a myspace a few days ago and did not add him as a friend...and he is mad about that too. I have my self-respect...and if he is so desperate to be friends, he'd have added me. But he has more pride than he knows what to do with. I don't understand why he thinks he can break my heart, then still have me in his life. Is it because he wants to keep me waiting in the wings until something better comes along? I don't understand his logic. I know I should ignore him (and I have been...its driving him crazy!). He's not worth the energy, but I'm still upset. I was good to him...this is what I get in return? Should I just be his friend (even though he's not really friend material...I HAVE NICE FRIENDS!) so that he'll shut up and so I can make peace with it and move on with my life? Should I have added him?
I don't understand what's going through his head, but I don't deserve to be talked about in a nasty way. I haven't said anything bad about him. He is classless.
Thanks for reading. Just needed to vent. Thanks so much. any advice or input would be appreciated!

Don't worry about what he says, he doesn't deserve that much energy. I wouldn't add him to your friends or try to be his friend until he grows up some. Don't let him manipulate you and your emotions. Stick with the NC, and keep your head high.
Hi mpiece1982,
"Someone that wants to be your friend would not bad mouth you to other friends."
Or to family or to anyone for that matter.