So confused...

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Registered: 06-07-2011
So confused...
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Tue, 06-07-2011 - 10:55am

I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago, we had been on and off for a number of years and it had always ended badly (mostly his choice). Last year he contacted me saying that he made a big mistake and wanted to put everything he had into trying again and I was hesitant at first because of everything I had gone through but ended up getting back together with him anyway. We both had expressed that we were unhappy,

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Registered: 06-07-2011
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 1:14pm
I just recently got broken up with....again. I, too, had an on-again, off-again relationship. I find that keeping busy helps. I'm volunteering at a cat shelter and I've been spending time with friends and family. After a week of No contact, I found I was less disappointed in him not texting or calling me....however I got set back bc he texted me yesterday but I feel better and I'm not crying as much. The only thing making it hard for me is one of my "friends". She flirted with him in front of me and has been texting him, saying that they were close, even tho they weren't when I dated him. Just keep busy....I find that reading helps too, because it takes my mind off the real world.
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Registered: 12-18-2009
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 1:18pm
Not to sound rude when you are hurting but what exactly were you hoping for when you broke up with him ? Cry, beg or what ?
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Registered: 06-07-2011
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 1:24pm

No its ok, its not rude. But to be honest, I didn't really feel like it was me breaking up with him anyway. All I did was come to the conclusion that it wasn't worth trying to fix when he already seemed to be there anyway. I guess I was just hoping to have another conversation completely ending it, maybe thats foolish because there doesn't need to be one but I just thought it would make it easier

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Registered: 12-18-2009
Tue, 06-07-2011 - 1:31pm
If you wanted a conversation, then you shouldnt have ended over text. You should have met in person and then broken up.

No use over thinking over woulda, coulda, shoulda now.

Read through the healing folder and know that there is no perfect or good way of breaking up .Thats why its called ' breaking up is hard to do '.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Wed, 06-08-2011 - 2:00am

jjtoronto, if I understand correctly, you've already broken up with him.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Thu, 06-09-2011 - 12:20am

I agree with trueblue.