so confused....

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2006
so confused....
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Sun, 11-12-2006 - 11:56pm
I met a wonderful man 10 years ago, when I was still in high school, and he persued me relentlessly. I felt this amazing emotional attachment toward him, but being young and naive wasn't ready to dive into anything so serious. Three years later, I thought I was ready, but turns out he wasn't (or so I thought). Recently got back in touch (7 years later) and had a nice heart to heart talk then heard absolutely nothing from him for three whole months, in which time I wrote a few letters basically telling him I needed closure to move on if that's what he wanted...still heard absolutely nothing. Yesterday, I happened to drive past him in my car and he waved from his, so I text him asking what's up and he responds that he thought he'd say hi and that things are completely cool between us?!?! I have no idea what to make of this...every little gesture from him leaves me wanting more and he knows that, so how come he can't/won't just let me let go?
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 6:02pm

Hon, if he's not stopping, just waving, he's let you go. He's not asked you on a date, proposed marriage. You are going to have to be the one that is strong by setting boundaries, not taking calls, etc.

::in which time I wrote a few letters basically telling him I needed closure to move on if that's what he wanted...still heard absolutely nothing

He's unable to give you want you want. Closure is a gift you give yourself. You can't get it from another person.


Carrie