So Confused

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Registered: 01-20-2006
So Confused
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Fri, 01-20-2006 - 4:09pm
Me and my boyfriend split up like 2 days ago, i am so argumentative he is the kindest person i have ever met but i got so insecure was just so scared he was gonna leave me i drove a wedge in between us. he said he still loves me but not enough to carry it on even though we have spilt up i asked if there will be a chance ever he said he doesnt know never say never and he is still numb.... What does this mean in men language? my god i thought he was perfect for me it my fault we started arguing i caused them all the time we split up on good terms though so were still talking and he said he doesnt wanna loose contact with me. HELP!!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: annabella_19
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 10:37am

annabella_19...

Pianoguy admires the fact that you take credit for "instigating" the break-up. .

Why not give your EX and YOURSELF a little space for a few weeks? It's entirely possible he'll contact you for a chance to get "reunited" again?

And while the two of you are keeping your distance from each other, why not come up with a few ways to avoid any future verbal altercations with ANY MAN. They might help you prevent 'heartbreaks' in the future?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 11-02-2005
In reply to: annabella_19
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 1:01pm

Hi annabella,

I don't know "men's language"...I wish I know though, but the truth is he doesn't love you enough to make effort to continue this relationship.

I agree with Pianoguy that you sound like you need space and time to calm down. I don't think talking to him, especially in the argumentative way helps you at all. Go out with your girlfriends and ask what they thought about your relationship with your ex. You may hear something you might have not expected.

Aloha