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So confused!!!
| Thu, 06-09-2005 - 8:51am |
Hi all - I've been posting here the last few weeks and you all have been wonderful in helping me through my pain. I've been going through the process of trying to heal, when out of the blue I heard from my ex. We talked for a bit, idle chit chat, then he asked me if I still wanted to see him the 4th of July as planned. I was shocked to say the least! I was really tempted to ask him is he was crazy/high/out of his mind! I told him no because I don't want to go as "just friends" to hang out with he and his family. It's so hard you guys because I do want nothing more than to see him but I feel like I have to protect myself. It's not as if he's saying he wants to really try to work this out and sorry he made a mistake or anything like that. I'm just so confused now. Help :(

"It's so hard you guys because I do want nothing more than to see him but I feel like I have to protect myself."
You were in the process of healing and he calls you out of the blue, in a way it kinda takes you back a few steps b/c you'll probably be thinking about it now. If you got the vibe that he wasn't really interested in making it work then I suggest that you skip the 'get together' with him. It'll only make things worse for you.
Don't do the Just Friends things! I know you've heard from many people on this board telling you why - this will do nothing but hurt you. Cut off contact, and that means not answering the phone when he calls. If you really want to work this out (and you honestly think he is willing to work on himself and the relationship) then let him know - via email - that you are not interested in remaining friends. If he wants to get back together, he can let you know. Otherwise he should respect your feelings and leave you alone.
It REALLY, REALLY is a bad idea to keep in contact when the breakup is so fresh. Talking or emailing him will just keep you from healing.
You deserve better, bug hug
Grace