So confused

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Registered: 10-10-2007
So confused
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Wed, 10-10-2007 - 4:22pm

Here is my story.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: clebensieg
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 4:56pm

Welcome to the board clebensieg,


Sorry to hear about your marriage.

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Registered: 10-11-2007
In reply to: clebensieg
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 10:25am
I don't think that your begin a sucker nor a fool. About the same thing is going on in my life. We love our husbanbs but don't want to be made a fool out of in the end. I'm like you or was like you until I got married. My husband have been cheating on me for 5yrs. and I'm still with him I haven't seen him doing this but he have amitted to doing it. He say that he is not doing it now and want his marriage but deep in my heart he is still cheating because for the simple fact that they still work together they say she have moved on but this girl was actual in love with my husband and was giving him money towards a divorce but he never had filed for one. I was told that now he was wishing that he had left me because she now have moved into her own house renting one anyways. Should I be worried because I believe that he got strong feelings for her too. I think that we need to be strong and just let go but it is so hard when we love our husbands so. What kind advice can you give me I haven't been happy for along time and feel that this will never end if not with her someone else? She have never been the only one it have been 4 others that I know of. I still support him in what he do not ran to the streets to get no get back or nothing but he's always telling me that I don't love him. But if I didn't I don't think I would still be around even after a girl said she was having his baby and named it after him I'm still with him but found out it's not his but it could have been and not coming home for day at a time. Do you think that I'm scared to be alone? You may need to stop talking to him an see how things go from there because we're the ones that are begin hurt and it does hurt.
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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: clebensieg
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 11:02am

I know the exact feeling!

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Registered: 10-11-2007
In reply to: clebensieg
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 11:30am
You will get over it will take some time but it will happen. Well, have mention that he made a mistake or want to talk about yall marriage or anything there is a reason why he keeping calling you and stuff but you know men can't express theirselves as we can.
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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: clebensieg
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 11:45am
I know.
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Registered: 10-11-2007
In reply to: clebensieg
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 11:56am
Yes, I have 4 children and it will kill them but that don't seem to matter to him as long as he can do what he want when he want and always think sorry gets it. I don't know maybe I feel that I need him for finanical needs also because I do homehealth and get paid bi-weekly or maybe I love him that much to let him keep doing this to me. They always ask when he not home mommy wheres my daddy he should be off work by now. 2 of my kids are not his had them when we started dating 1 was 6 and the other was 4.
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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: clebensieg
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 1:16pm
I thank God we didn't have children together, but I do have three children.