so down. don't know what to do anymore..

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Registered: 10-28-2004
so down. don't know what to do anymore..
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Fri, 11-12-2004 - 1:31am
when will this stop? i know that i can't just magically be "over him", but seriously.... it has been almost 4 months now, and he is still all i think about almost every minute of my day! i wake up thinkinging about him, i go to bed thinking about him and i even think about him while im sleeping. i try to keep up no contact but its hard, we have classes together 3 days a week.... i have been doing pretty well about not approaching him though... i haven't done that in about a week, but he still comes to me about things! even though i told him it was really tough because i still have feelings for him. in fact, on friday i am going to be turning in his work for him because he is not going to be at school! he is going to be off doing something fun, and here i am, too nice to not say no and getting stuck turning in his work! i just don't get it. he could have given it to the teacher THAT day when he told him he wouldn't be coming friday, he could have given it to one of the other 50 people in our class, but no.. he had to ask me to do it, and i of course am. ughh.. its like he is testing me... he wants to make sure i am still there enough i think... you know? maybe i have it all wrong. who knows? i am just hurting so bad right now, i am missing all the things we used to do together right now SO bad. its the worst it has been so far, and im not exagerating! i think the thing i miss most is him holding me on these cold yucky days. its so hard!=( i just want him to call and come over and everything to be back to normal, but that isn't going to happen, and i need to accept it. accept that he has moved on and no longer wants to be with me. ='(
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 1:48am
Oh, that's tough that you have class together so you can't do no contact.

However, if you want to move on, I think you owe it to yourself to get tougher with him...put your foot down about talking to him! You are not going to feel better until you are able to do that. Walk away if he approaches you. Don't talk to him unless it is *absolutely* necessary. Yes, I know that's tough to do but the alternative is feeling like you do now indefinitely.

The other thing that you should do is practice thought-stopping. Here's a link to a post about that technique. It really helps, but you have to work at it.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlmendingbro&msg=9612.1

Sheri