so i'm fat...
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so i'm fat...
| Tue, 07-10-2007 - 8:43pm |
and that is why he doesn't want to be intimate with me anymore...he loves me but just doesn't find me attractive anymore after five years because i have put on 20 lbs...let's not forget that he has on 30 lbs in the past year, but that is okay...so now all the pain i felt last night in my post (read FIVE YEARS.....AND HE DOESN"T CARE) is totally more unbearable now because i feel like i'm the most unattractive, unlovable person possible...why did i answer the phone? and why did i ask the questions i asked? i said to him, after he said he didn't want to break up, "how can we be together if we won't have sex because there is no way of us being intimate now?" (you girls know what i mean) and he says, well you can still take care of me!!!! can you imagine???? i feel sooo not sexy at all and feel that our relations in that department in the past are now seedy. UGHHH....before i thought about all the things i learned about myself by being with him, especially in the past year and the good it brought to me, even if it didn't improve the relationship...so now, i will plot revenge...and lose my weight and see him one day and he'll still have his 30 lbs if not more and i will be happy...is that wrong?

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I agree that you really do need to lose weight... not the mere 20 pounds you have gained in the last few years... but the entire weight of your immature and idiotic boy (emphasis on "boy") friend.
For most, 20 pounds equates to going up one dress size. And trust me, if this guy is so fixated on 20 pounds/the difference of a dress size, he's not the sort of guy who you want in your life in the short, or long, term. It is, always has been, and always will be, what's on the inside that matters most.
Do yourself, your self esteem, your morale, and your entire life a huge favour... leave your boyfriend in the past, be happy with who you are (at any weight) and find a man who loves you regardless of a number on a scale.
And please... when you dump this loser, leave him with the following: "assuming your offer for me to take care of you in a sexless relationship meant me "servicing" your needs, I'll take a pass and suggest you "service" yourself."
mblade2006
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