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so upset
| Mon, 10-08-2007 - 1:44pm |
i called my bf up to find out whats going on. his cuz told me he was there a while ago. I'm thinking why couldnt he take 5 mins to call me. i was so upset i text him saying"i know you said you will call me but you havent yet. its been almost a week.u just stop checking i dont understand.u wont call me to let me know anything, i really miss u this seems like the only way i can reach u. i know i wasnt suppose to text or call but im just so upset & fustrated. should i just leave him alone?but i feel he really

Cuteness, are you talking to your mom?
cuteness, I think it's time that you tried talking to your mom or a friend, a professional counselor, maybe your minister, rabbi or priest. Someone in person who can give you a hug. If you're in school, they should have free counseling available to you through the student health center or peer counseling. I know you've been given hotline numbers to call. That would be a good first step. Several people on this board have found that hotline number to be very helpful, and it's free and confidential.
I'm not sure what else we can tell you to help you, although "knowing" the people on the board as I do, I know we'd all love to see you feel better. Breakups and arguments with loved ones are some of the most highly-emotional experiences we can go though, but you WILL get through it. We can all see you beginning to spin out of control and definitely a breakup can make you feel as though things will never get better unless we DO something, but usually the very opposite is true. Things usually get better when we STOP focusing on what to do to fix things, and just focus energy on ourselves. It's hard, but that's it. There is no magic pill, no spells, no time machine, just you sitting with your thoughts and your feelings and NOT acting on them, learning that if you let them pass, they WILL pass.
You've even mentioned suicide, which, is not worth it, yet it happens all the time. It happened on the board this past year, a woman reached out for help and got many concerned replies, but just didn't seem to listen or believe anyone cared or think that things would get any better. The board members truly do cae, otherwise we wouldn't be here :-) Her sister wrote to the board to tell us she'd killed herself over a man who wasn't giving her the time of day. She'd left her children behind. So we never take someone saying that lightly around here. We care about you feeling better and not hurting yourself. You must believe that what you are feeling and fighting are your own fears, and being that they are yours, you can completely control them and stop feeling this way.
But we can only do so much and I really think it's time you started to also reach out to someone in person where you are. Please keep us posted on how you're doing and what you're doing to help yourself. We really do care, it's time for you to start acting in your best interest. Typically this does not include calling him or contacting him, he's the source of your pain, so he cannot be the source of your peace.
Best of luck to you,