some advice please

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Registered: 04-19-2005
some advice please
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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 5:08pm
Hi- he's coming over tonight to get the rest of the things...we broke up in February, dated for a year and a half, incredible relationship- crazy about each other, and 2 1/2 months ago he snapped and said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship. i'm 28 and he's 26. I'm completely heart broken over this...I was sure he was it. He wants to continue to be friends, I'm just finding it very difficult. Anyone had any experiences on how to handle this best? yes ideally I want him to come back...but then again only if he really thought he was ready and made a huge mistake...I just want an idea on how to handle tonight....
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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 5:17pm

I would change the location of your meet to a public place...or have a friend come over and be there with you, so that there's no temptation to get into a long, emotional talk or (heaven forbid) have ex sex.

Whatever you do, make it as short as possible. If he does come over, have the stuff ready to hand to him...don't even have him come in.

Sheri

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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 6:26pm

muggsieboston...


Just a suggestion (from another man).....but keep things brief when he comes over this evening to pick up his stuff.

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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 10:33pm
Thanks you guys for the help..it went ok. It was hard...and I did end up grabbing some dinner..but he started to tell me how much he needed this break and it was good for him...and I just kinda cut it off...said I was glad, and now maybe he's ready for that next girl. I feel good about it. I love him still and think I always will, but the way tonight went I feel as though maybe I came out on top..for "me"...which I guess is the best outcome. anyway..thanks again..I really appreciate the notes.