Some thoughts that may help

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Registered: 09-15-2005
Some thoughts that may help
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Fri, 10-07-2005 - 1:31am

My boyfriend dumped me a few weeks ago, and like a lot of you I went into serious despair. But there has been no contact, I've gotten very busy with work and school, and I am here to tell you that the sun will shine and you will feel whole again soon. In fact, I'm kind of surprised when I look back on the wreck who wouldn't eat or get out of bed just a few short weeks ago. Seems like a distant memory now. Anyway, I've learned a few things that I thought I'd share in the hope that they may help you through this difficult time.

My life might be sad for a while, but my ex will always be a jerk.

Think of the billions of people on this planet who neither know nor care to know your ex - most of them are doing just fine without him.

Feeling heartbroken is like having the flu - you feel so awful you don't think you'll ever feel better, but you do, and surprisingly quickly.

If you're really honest with yourself, what he was giving you probably wasn't nearly good enough, and you probably weren't as happy as you thought.

Researchers have discovered that people tend to overvalue what they've lost, whether it's money, a job or a relationship. Don't fall into this trap - being realistic will help you heal.

It's only natural to overreact to a negative event, just remember that what you're experiencing is probably just that, an overreaction. Just because this one thing went wrong does not mean that all areas of your life are a hopeless void, although believe me I know it can feel that way.

And this may have been posted elsewhere on the board, but I think it's worth repeating. Winston Churchill once said, "When you're going through hell, keep going."

Wishing you all a speedy recovery and a bright future ahead.

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Fri, 10-07-2005 - 8:41pm

Love this:

Think of the billions of people on this planet who neither know nor care to know your ex - most of them are doing just fine without him.

It's really got me thinking in a different way.....