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| Thu, 11-25-2004 - 6:34pm |
Hi girls,
I m surprised how many girls are going through the same situation here.
I read few posts and was really shocked. It is like a textbook case.
having been through a nasty breakup recently (less than a week ago) and having my X begging me to keep close to him and to be his only and best friend forever!!! (yeah right) I decided to share with you sme tips that might help make the moving on easier:
1- Try to start a new activity (GYM, Dance, volunteering, social work...)
2- Try to block him from your thoughts. Whenever you feel like thinking of him immediately change the thought to something else
3- Get an interesting book/novel that will keep you wondering about the end of the story...
4- if you can afford it reward yourself for not thinking of him (spa, new sweater...)
5- Remember him in his worst situations like some situation where he looked not so attractive or dumb or embarassing. Everytime you feel like thinking of him bring that image in front of your eyes!
6-Meet a new guy and date him just casually, dont get involved and make sure he does not get involved either. Just the thought that you are the subject of interest of someone will lift you up and make you forget him.
I hope this helps.
Please add your tips and suggestions...
It is seems like there is a population of women suffering from this plague!!
J.

Great tips. I've tried all and I've found they really do help in moving on with your life. Especially meeting new guys and dating casually. I gave myself a few weeks to grieve my dead relationship, then I got back out there and started going out with a dozen new guys. So far nothing is serious, but I've been having fun taking my pick of guys and having someone take an interest in me has reminded me that I am desirable and that just cause my ex didn't want me doesn't mean someone else (and plenty) won't.
Hi,
I got word about a month ago that my ex was with his new gf and that has been tearing me apart. Anyways you say you go out and date all these guys. Where do you go to find all these guys. I go to a college (a commuter) and nobody ever asks me out or seems interested. My ex told me he met his new gf at school and that he's in love with her...ass..anyway, I don't know how to just put myself out there and wouldn't know what to do if anyone even asked me...
This is helping ME. I am a social worker and have to write quaterly (3 month)
objective plans for my clients. My clients and I work to develop a long term goal, a short term goal,the problem that needs addressing and discuss objectives to reach these.
So, I wrote one for myself! I started Nov 6 and will evaluate my progress on Feb 6.
For 3 months I am not allowed to scheme of how to acciently run into him, not allowed to email or call, and I'm not allowed to compare myself to the girl who replaced me.
Things I WILL do are exercise, eat right (I'm following one of those look younger diets)
and am doing affirmations and listening to positive thinking tapes.
UNFORTUNATELY, my long term goal is to get him back. I'm still a wuss. I am hoping that by focusing my energy on to myself and not on him, he'll call me from out of the blue and we'll get back together.
But the Feb 6 plan has given me something to focus on besides our break up.
I am journaling my progess every step of the way.
My problem is that he's my neighbor, so it is so easy to check up on him.
It's also in my face that I've been replaced, so it's hard. Hopefully by Feb 6. things will be better. I bought a book called "Men like women who like themselves" and women who like thmeselves don't stalk or beg someone who dumped them to take them back.