Some words to live by...

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Some words to live by...
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 3:05pm
I know that I've already posted some of these...but please, take the time to read and REALLY think about them...good luck everyone :) be strong, we'll make it through this...

p.s. the words in ( ) are my thoughts as to what these quotes mean...if anyone else has any thoughts, feel free to share! :) sorry it's so long!!!

"As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken, probably more than once & it's harder each time. You'll break hearts, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing so fast. You'll eventually lose someone you love. So, take too many pictures, laugh too hard and love like you've never been hurt, because every minute you spend mad or upset is a minute of happiness that you'll never get back." (DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME BEING SAD...EVERY MINUTE YOU SPEND MOPING AROUND IS ONE THAT YOU'LL NEVER GET BACK!)

"Maybe it is true that you don't know what you have until it's gone, but it is also true that you don't know what you have been missing until it arrives."

(DON'T EVER GIVE UP HOPE ON FINDING THE RIGHT ONE FOR YOU! IT MAY SEEM LIKE NO ONE COULD EVER COMPARE TO YOUR EX, BUT YOU CAN, AND YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE BETTER!)

"Not all kisses are magic, and most boys don't live up to your expectations, but there are times when even love, romance, relationships... it all fits together, and it's incredible. And it's those moments, no matter how depressingly few and far between, that make growing up worth it."

(REMEMBER THE GOOD...DON'T LET THE BAD OVERWHELM YOU. IT'S OK TO BE ANGRY, BUT DON'T LET EVERY RELATIONSHIP OF YOURS END UP AS A NEGATIVE PART OF YOUR LIFE.)

"Always remember to forget the things that make you sad, but never forget to remember the things that make you happy."

(DON'T CONCENTRATE ON THE SAD PARTS OF LIFE...LIVE FOR THE GOOD ONES! THERE'S SO MUCH BEAUTY IN LIFE...DON'T LET THE UGLY STUFF BRING YOU DOWN.)

"Love is like glass. If you drop it, it shatters and can never be put completely back together, if you can put it back together at all. But love can also be like porcelain - if it's meant to be, it'll never crack."

(WHEN YOU FIND THAT PERFECT LOVE...YOU WILL KNOW. DON'T SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS!)

"It's so important to hold onto the memories, and yet sometimes you have to wonder whether the memories are the things that are holding you back."

(IT'S OKAY TO REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES, AS LONG AS THE MEMORIES DON'T HOLD YOU BACK FROM HAVING MORE...)

"The opposite sex is the most dangerous and addictive drug out there, but the high is unlike anything else."

(JUST BECAUSE YOU HAD ONE BAD RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T MEAN THAT EVERY GUY/GIRL OUT THERE IS HORRIBLE. THE GOOD SHOULD ALWAYS OUTWEIGH THE BAD...IF IT DOESN'T, THERE'S SOMETHNG WRONG.)

"I've accepted that we can't be, but I've also accepted that you're gonna be that one person I carry with me for the rest of my life, the one that is always going to make my heart jump a little and my stomach tie up in knots no matter how happy I am otherwise and no matter how long it's been. Do you realize how incredibly difficult it is to accept both those things at once?"

(THIS QUOTE DESCRIBES THE WAY I FEEL ABOUT MY EX--RIGHT NOW AT LEAST. I HAVE A FEELING THAT I'LL ALWAYS CARE ABOUT HIM IN SOME WAY...BUT I KNOW THAT WE CAN'T BE, AND IT'S DIFFICULT TO ACCEPT THAT...I'M SURE A LOT OF YOU CAN RELATE!)

"Beginning's are scary and endings are usually sad, but it's the middle that counts the most."

(DON'T LET A BAD ENDING SCARE YOU FROM STARTING OVER AGAIN...THE END OF THE JOURNEY MAY SUCK, BUT IT'S THE PATH YOU TAKE ON THE WAY THERE THAT COUNTS.)

"If you love somebody, set them free. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were."

(LETTING GO OF SOMEONE CAN BE THE MOST DIFFICULT THING IN THE WORLD...BUT IF IT'S MEANT TO BE, THEY WILL COME BACK TO YOU. YOU CAN ONLY DO SO MUCH.)

"Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up."

(YOU LEARN, AND YOU GROW FROM LOVE...IT DOES NOT ALWAYS GO THE WAY YOU HOPE FOR. BUT IT'S AN ESSENTIAL PART OF GROWING UP AND FINDING OUT WHO YOU REALLY ARE.)

"Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course, we wouldn't fall in love, or have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life and people go. But it's comforting to know the ones you love are always in your heart. And if you're very lucky, a plane ride away."

(EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON...AND LIKE THE QUOTE SAYS, PEOPLE COME AND PEOPLE GO. BUT IF IT'S TRUE LOVE, THEN THEY'LL ALWAYS BE THERE.)

"Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous."

(THIS IS A REALLY IMPORTANT QUOTE...YOU MUST LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU CAN TRULY LOVE ANYONE ELSE OR BEFORE ANYONE ELSE CAN LOVE YOU. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST...AND FIND THE PERSON WHO LOVES YOU FOR YOU.)

"You gotta hurt in order to know. Fall in order to grow. Lose in order to gain. Because most of life's lessons are learned in pain."

(AS PAINFUL AS BREAKING UP HAS BEEN, I KNOW THAT I'VE LEARNED SO MUCH ABOUT MYSELF, OTHERS, AND LIFE IN GENERAL BECAUSE OF IT. DON'T WALK AWAY FROM THIS EXPERIENCE WITHOUT LEARNING SOMETHING.)

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim, accept no one's definition of your life. Define yourself."

(I THINK THIS QUOTE PRETTY MUCH EXPLAINS ITSELF...)

"Wait for the person who pursues you, the one who will make an ordinary moment seem magical, the kind of person who brings out the best in you and makes you want to be a better person."

(NEVER SETTLE!!! LET YOURSELF BE PURSUED...AND WAIT FOR THAT ONE SPECIAL PERSON WHO GETS THE BEST OF YOU AND GIVES THEIR BEST IN RETURN.)

"There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters--who never did--and who always will."

(FIND OUT WHO REALLY MATTERS...AND DON'T LET THE ONES WHO DON'T MATTER BRING YOU DOWN!)

"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option."

(AGAIN, DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS THAN WHAT YOU DESERVE...FIND THE PERSON WHO WANTS TO BE WITH YOU JUST AS MUCH AS YOU WANT TO BE WITH THEM.)

"The only people you need in your life are the ones that need you in theirs."

(I KEEP TELLING MYSELF THIS...MY EX DOESN'T NEED ME IN HIS LIFE...SO I SHOULDN'T NEED HIM IN MINE. IT'S A TWO-WAY STREET...IF HE ISN'T MAKING THE EFFORT TO KNOW ME, THEN I SHOULDN'T EITHER.)

"Work like you don't need the money; dance like no one is watching; sing like no one is listening; love like you've never been hurt; and live everyday like it is your last."

(LIVE FOR THE MOMENT...LIVE IN THE PRESENT, AND FORGET THE PAST. DON'T LET BAD PAST EXPERIENCES HOLD YOU BACK. MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE!)

"Today you said you were leaving/Couldn't let you see me cry/You can take what you want to/But won't let you take my pride/Feels like the top of the world/Right here the world's all mine."

(KEEP YOUR PRIDE/SELF-RESPECT...IT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU HAVE. DON'T EVER LET IT GO!)

"Are you hiding still?/Don't you want to love yourself?/Don't you know that someone will?/Time can turn it around."

(JUST GIVE IT TIME AND EVENTUALLY YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT...AND YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN! BUT LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.)

"You're gone, you're gone, are you waiting for somethin?/Go on cause I won't be back soon /It's hateful to say, see it this way/Don't even know who you are/But in my defense I'd do it again/I don't need to know who you are."

(DON'T HOLD ONTO NOTHING...LET GO, BECAUSE YOU WILL BE FINE WITH OR WITHOUT YOUR EX. YOU DON'T NEED TO KNOW THEM...AND HONESTLY, PEOPLE CHANGE SO MUCH AFTER BREAKUPS...I FEEL LIKE I DON'T EVEN KNOW MY EX ANYMORE.)

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 3:16pm
kcl, thanks for your all of your

"Without music, life is a journey through the desert"...

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 3:22pm
Where are these quotes from kcl?
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 5:52pm
Hey, thanks taunwe! :) I'm glad you enjoy my posts...I know that was an especially long one to read, but I really feel like all of those quotes are very thought-provoking. I find myself relating to them extremely well...and I'm glad you did too! :) Take care.
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 5:54pm
hey iamdelightful--

A lot of those quotes are just random ones that I've discovered over the years...I'm a sucker for a good quote :) A few are from the show "Sex&theCity." And the last three are song lyrics...if you want to know the exact authors, just let me know! :) Take care.

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 6:08pm
Thanks for sharing this post with us...I'm sure it will help many people on the board that are going through hard times, like yourself. It so unds like you are doing better....and I'm glad for it. Congrats...you are on your way!!! As always....keep us posted and good luck!!!
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 7:00pm
Thank you!! I really do feel like I'm making good progress and I hope you are as well :) I'm glad you appreciate my posts...it's nice to know that others are getting something out of them as well. Take care!
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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 7:31pm
Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting those quotes. I just finished crying my eyes out because I miss my ex-boyfriend and want him back so badly.

But I'm going to post some of these quotes on my desk where his framed photo use to be to keep me strong. My favorite one is "Never make someone a priority and allow yourself to be an option". That was my situation.

I feel better now.

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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 7:51pm
Aww, you are so very welcome! I'm really glad that reading those quotes made you feel better. I love quotes and have read a lot of those over & over again...they really do give strength. Hang in there, alright? :) Take care!
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 3:01pm
Those words are perfect, every broken heart should read them
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 3:13pm
:) Yeah, they really are good quotes...I'm glad you liked them as well.