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| Fri, 05-04-2007 - 6:15pm |
Ok, I am very desperate today.After almost 6 months, I am still missing him. The problem is I have not been able to do 'no contact' as he works with me. And though our relationship is changed to professional and he is not even in the same office, it still totally hurts. It is like last 2 weeks I had a big relapse. I can't work, I sit in front of my computer crying, trying to figure out what happened, why, whether he ever cared for me. Things like that and he was my best friend too. So I miss that and wonder all the hows and whys. And I do want to let go..I can't quit my job. I feel so helpless. I am seeing a therapist but all she says is this is common. But I can't seem to let go. Someone please advice as I cannot not have 'no contact'. I still got to deal with him some days (over email mostly). But it just feels hurtful.
thanks for listening.

Unfortunately there really is no getting around it...it's going to take you longer to get over him than it would if you were able to have no contact. The good news is that it will happen eventually, but I know it must seem like it's taking forever.
The best advice I can give you is to limit your contact with him as much you can (and still do your job) and keep it strictly professional (no personal chit chat at all).
Since quitting your job isn't an option, any chance of a transfer within the company so you don't have to deal with him even by email?
Sheri
"The best advice I can give you is to limit your contact with him as much you can (and still do your job) and keep it strictly professional (no personal chit chat at all)."
Ok I thought I could still continue some semblance of friendship. Have exchanged some personal chit-chat emails (really only 1 liners), thought I could handle it..missed the friendship..but I think this is causing a relapse. Thought if I dont talk on phone,it is ok but guess even emails are a no-no. So how do I stop myself from pressing the send button, if I just want to do a really not necessary email. This just totally sucks. I hate feeling this hopeless. And sometimes I miss that friendship.
Thanks for writing,Sheri.