Soo...Now What
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Soo...Now What
| Fri, 02-17-2006 - 11:20am |
So I left my live in Boyfriend of two years on Valentines Day. It was also his birthday.
I would not have done so, but I found out that night that he cheated on me last summer for a few months with someone. I am sure the information I was given is correct, I did my back ground work first to check.
Its only been two days, but it is so weird not to be with someone...
I knoew we were not working out for a while, mostly because we were growing apart, but all we knew was each other the last few years. So I have not cried or anything because I feel very free now. Everything seems better, the air smells cleaner, songs have more meaning...etc.
I am excited to move into a new place on my own and I interviewed for a job yesturday which will have more responsibility and pay $8000 more a year. So I am crossing my fingers. It would be nice to change everything in my life all at once since my whole routine has now been drastically altered. No one to wake up to, no one to kiss and hug me, to make me dinner and play pool with....
The only thing that is really upsetting me besides being loney, is why he did not tell me about this other girl. I knew he had slept with her when we separeted for a few weeks, but he said ti was once and then said he thinks her and I are very simular and we should try and be friends...why would he want that when he should have know she would tell me what their relationship is about, cus thats where I heard it from. She was not being vindictive, I went up to her to smooth things out, I thought she was a good person who just got caught up in his rebound. Then his best friend confirmed the affair to me. But my Ex WILL not admitt to it. So last night I had a nightmare about trying to get the info out of him...
Dontchya just love relationship drama and break ups. The key thing to always remember is when people break up, they get over it. This is my third serious relationship at the at of 27 and I got over the other two, and someday I will meet someone new and use all that I have learned in the past...good times, Lol
I would not have done so, but I found out that night that he cheated on me last summer for a few months with someone. I am sure the information I was given is correct, I did my back ground work first to check.
Its only been two days, but it is so weird not to be with someone...
I knoew we were not working out for a while, mostly because we were growing apart, but all we knew was each other the last few years. So I have not cried or anything because I feel very free now. Everything seems better, the air smells cleaner, songs have more meaning...etc.
I am excited to move into a new place on my own and I interviewed for a job yesturday which will have more responsibility and pay $8000 more a year. So I am crossing my fingers. It would be nice to change everything in my life all at once since my whole routine has now been drastically altered. No one to wake up to, no one to kiss and hug me, to make me dinner and play pool with....
The only thing that is really upsetting me besides being loney, is why he did not tell me about this other girl. I knew he had slept with her when we separeted for a few weeks, but he said ti was once and then said he thinks her and I are very simular and we should try and be friends...why would he want that when he should have know she would tell me what their relationship is about, cus thats where I heard it from. She was not being vindictive, I went up to her to smooth things out, I thought she was a good person who just got caught up in his rebound. Then his best friend confirmed the affair to me. But my Ex WILL not admitt to it. So last night I had a nightmare about trying to get the info out of him...
Dontchya just love relationship drama and break ups. The key thing to always remember is when people break up, they get over it. This is my third serious relationship at the at of 27 and I got over the other two, and someday I will meet someone new and use all that I have learned in the past...good times, Lol

You sound like you are doing very well! You are already looking on the bright side of things even though this is a tough time.
I am sort of in the same situation as you (ex-bf cheated/talking to/going to wedding with) another girl and I just found out about it. He denied it as well even though I had written proof. I asked him on several occasions if there was anyone else, and he kept saying "no- I can tell you that" or "why are you saying these things?" or "are your friends giving you a hard time? your mom?" He lied to me continually even though I saw their discussions with my own eyes.
So.. to answer your question why don't they tell us? Because they are good at avoiding. It's easier to avoid and hope for the best than to own up to it and say they're sorry. He didn't want to lose you and probably knew he would had you known or he admitted.
They are screwed up, bottom line. Keep posting on here if you need support!
I expected nothing physical to happen. In fact when I saw him the thought had never crossed my mind. But we ended up making love that night. It was amazing. I know it was because we broke up and the connection was made stronger because of that. At first I thought it was a great way to say goodbye, but now it just makes me miss him so much more and I am left confused. I don't want to go back to living with him. As I said I want to get a place of my own, but I don't want to be without him. I know in the very least we need time to grow, time away from each other. I am having all the usually issues with breaking up as well. I am terrified for him to forget about me or sleep with someone else. I told him last night (I had to get some more things I had left there) that in a perfect world this is what I want to happen: That we have a 'break' from each other for a few motnhs in which neither of us sleep with anyone else and then we see how we feel about being together. Again thats in a perfect world. Mainly I think I feel that way because I do not want him to sleep with someone then we decide to get back together because that happened last summer and it was too hard to deal with.
I am not even anxious about not being around him right now, I am enjoying trying to figure where I want to be in life, but I do miss him like crazy, the way he touches me, makes me dinner every night, kisses my forehead, makes the bed all cozy for me beforeI go to bed...This sucks!!
When do you walk away for good and how? I don't know if I am ready for it....Anyone have any suggestions?