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SOS--Going to be sick; send help
| Thu, 07-13-2006 - 12:28pm |
Had to delete.. don't really want my thoughts "out there" right now..time to heal.. Thanks for the responses.
Edited 7/14/2006 10:27 am ET by catalpa8
Edited 7/14/2006 10:27 am ET by catalpa8

Ugh, I'm sorry you're going through this. It's so normal to search for a reason "why"...but you know what? Focusing on the "why" just keeps you stuck.
Maybe his being bipolar is the reason, maybe it's an excuse. You're never going to know (and I was with someone who is bipolar for 4 years so I do have some familiarity with the disorder). FWIW, however, bipolar disorder is actually one of the hardest disorders to treat, because people who are don't like staying on their medication (it makes them feel too "flat"--they *like* the strong highs and lows and miss them when they are medicated).
In any event, regardless of why he ended it, and whether he is treatable or not...that doesn't matter. The bottom line is, he ended it and you need to accept that (which is what the grieving process leads you to--acceptance).
And you may never get an apology or acknowledgement that he treated you poorly. Some guys just don't ever feel the need to apologize--they don't like to take responsibility for their actions. I've found that most do, eventually, but it's usually months or even *years* down the road, well after the time when it would have actually *helped*, LOL.
Sheri
He ended it. It is over. My pride is hurt. I will recover. I have, btw, started dating someone else. It's a rebound thing, but it he is a catch. And, I'm going on vacation tomorrow so I won't have to see Mr. Rollercoaster out and about in town with his online dates. Yippee.
THANKS AGAIN!
My whole "I am so much better than him", condescending-to-date-him-attitude got me in the end. I mean, that is the WORST attitude to have going into a relationship. I never realized it and am pretty embarrassed to read my my postings now.
When I was dating the guy, I would say to people "he's kind of a dork..." I am sure he picked up on that. He showed me in the end, I guess.
I don't doubt he's got, at least, some kind of depression...however, my underlying vibe was negative and it must've gotten to him on some level. I am keeping myself in check next time. I am humbled, if nothing else. I don't deserve to be treated like dirt, but I DO deserve a big wake up call. thanks.
I was about to reply to you about exactly that when I saw your epiphany :)