Started NC Monday and venting

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Registered: 06-19-2009
Started NC Monday and venting
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Wed, 12-15-2010 - 9:16am

Ive been on here alot over the years....I just wanted to say that I finally got the strength to tell my ex to leave me alone. So I started the NC Monday. We broke up almost 4 months ago and he started dating someone else 2 months later...since he started dating her he would still call me. he had nothing good to say about her..I mean nothing, always complained about his life and how he was tired of her...Yes I listened...I was still in love with him and felt sorry for him...he cheated on her twice with me, which was stupid of my but i knew the consequences........I told him that if he was that upset about her then he was wasting his and her time....so monday he told me that he broke up with her Friday...... but then things just changed drastically afterwards..and two days later he is back with her and they are good...I knew I should have told him to leave me alone the moment we broke up but I was hoping......in the end I have cried more times than i ever cried in my life these past 4 months. ane with him doing that...it just made me realize that its not thst he had changed over the course of 6 years that we dated. He has been the same the whole time, I just didnt realize it because I was the love struck gf...he's a manipulator....immature...and I am tired of it. Finally, that was all I needed to know to say "Ok Im done with this crap"

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 12-15-2010 - 11:57am

I remember reading your posts. I'm so sorry for what this ass has put you through... And I'm really glad to see that you're taking a strong stand. 4 months is not a long time to give yourself to recover from that long a relationship. How sad that your friends don't believe in you.. You can prove them wrong. Believe in YOURSELF (as cheesy as that sounds), this is an opportunity to show people, including yourself, that you're stronger than they thought. If it helps, then of course you can write about him. Sometimes venting is just necessary, holding feelings inside can cause them to fester. It sounds like you're feeling all the right things required to really move on... You REALLY do not want him in your life anymore and you don't want to have feelings for him anymore. That's a great start, knowing that you truly deserve better and wanting a better life. Things will look up for you.

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Registered: 06-19-2009
Wed, 12-15-2010 - 5:40pm

Thank you for the encouragement......I never thought in a million years i would get sick of him....and I actually accepted his flaws because I thought that was what you were suppose to do when you love someone you want to be with....i guess I have alot more to learn considering that this was my first and only relationship. I didnt even tell him the reasons why I wanted him to leave me alone, I just told him I was tired of being in love with him....there was no point! Ive been telling him about his flaws for years!...just a waste of breath man.....Im really not having any problems not contacting him because I do not want to....Im so happy...like seriously.,,I hope he stays happy with her and never try to talk to me ever again.......

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Thu, 12-16-2010 - 4:23am

Kiss, I agree that you've done the right thing by having no contact.

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Registered: 06-19-2009
Thu, 12-16-2010 - 8:04am

Uuuuuugh Im so upset! He freaking used me!....and that is the type of person he is! And I knew that...and I dated him for 6 years and in the end he did me the same way. Im so hurt....and angry. I messed up the NC and sent him a message....because I was so angry I just wanted him to know how I felt. I told him not to respond to it.