Starting Over, wont lemme reply to old

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Registered: 05-31-2006
Starting Over, wont lemme reply to old
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Fri, 06-16-2006 - 7:48pm

"Well My Girlfriend and i broke up after 4 years, We broke up cause i was like her shadow, always there, i guess she felt trapped and she felt that i had no life out side of her, well after about a week or so of thinking we decided that we had so much in common and such much that made us laugh we would start over, and instead of seeing each other all the time, we would limit our visitations. I have all my old friends back and she still has hers. She tells me she still loves me, and i believe her, but i just feel a little weird, that im not used to this kind of relationship, how should i take this? what should i do to start to get used to this"

Sorry wont let me post to my old thread, well we got back together because we remember all the great times we had, and that out shined the bad, we decided to try and go a little slower, and do the things a boyfriend and girlfriend would do, not a old married couple.

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 3:51am
Too much of anything can kill you, too much love and company can kill a relationship. If you agreed to start over then have a life of your own. Go out with your friends, go to work, get a hobbie and call your GF, but not all the time. Plan dates in advance for both of you, but don't let the relationship consume you. You're both two people, not one. You both have to contribute to the relationship for it to grow and be consistent. Share qualityt time together, but have a life of your own as well.