still confused

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Registered: 06-14-2006
still confused
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Fri, 07-07-2006 - 3:01pm
My last entry was on June 19, I was the one the boyfriend threw me and my children out of the house after being together 4 years and living together a year and a half. Saying he can't deal with my kids. I am looking for a place to live and trying to figure out my life. I have been getting along okay. He calls me and tells me he misses me and loves me, but we just cannot live together. I should hate this man with all of my heart, but I don't. Every time I turn around I am reminded of him, with my friends where ever I go. I just want my heart to stop hurting and this empty feeling to be gone. I know that it will and everything will eventually get better. I am just very upset and depressed. I know that once I get settled down I will feel much better and not so overwhelmed. I went to the Dr. and got some anti-depressents but I don't think they are helping much. What can I do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: lvirola
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 3:13pm

What you can do is stop talking to him. Time alone doesn't heal, you also have to have a period of no contact in order for your heart to heal.

It won't be easy to stop, but the alternative, if you continue to talk to him, is to stay in this painful limbo you're in.

Good luck in finding a place, and keep us posted on how you're doing.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-14-2006
In reply to: lvirola
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 3:29pm
I know that you are right, it is just so very hard to just quit cold turkey. I feel like a stalker! I know what I should do, but it is just hard following through.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: lvirola
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 3:37pm

I know it is...we've all been there.

It's your choice...continue to talk to him and feel the pain for as long as you continue to do so, or stop talking to him and feel pain in the short term but eventually be able to move on. If you're not ready to stop talking, you're not...just be aware of what you're doing to yourself by choosing to keep in contact.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-22-2006
In reply to: lvirola
Sat, 07-08-2006 - 1:19am

I'm sorry you're still being hurt by him.

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