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| Sun, 04-09-2006 - 10:41am |
Hello again,
I posted last week about my boyfriend of 5 years breaking up with me. We got together yesterday and I wanted to give him back all of his stuff and see what he was thinking. We got together and it was so weird. In 5 years not once did i feel nervous or anxious to see him until yesterday. I was so nervous the whole time. Anyway, we talked for 4 hours and I asked him to give it another chance. He said that he needed time away to see how he felt, to see if he misses me and to sort through his feelings. He kept saying that you never know what happens and he could realize that he made a huge mistake but then he would say that he doesn't think we are going to get back together. So, we are taking this week off and I am calling him when I get back from Montreal next weekend. It hasn't even been one full day and I am feeling like crap. How do you guys get through this no contact thing? It's just so horrible the way that you can be so close to someone one day and overnight you can't have any contact with them. I guess I just still don't understand why this is happening. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Catgirl

He knows you want more that he is willing to give. If he continued to see you and talk to you, it would feed into the whole 'false hope' thing.
It does get easier. Make a list of things you want to accomplish (short - laundry, go for a walk and a long-term one, fun things) and start doing them. Keep busy, journal write, contact friends, go out, etc.
Sorry you have to go through this.
Carrie